We’ve been dating for a year and a half. Late last year she had some issues and told me she couldn’t handle a relationship at the time. I thought we were done for good, so I started seeing someone else casually, so did she.
After a couple of months, and therapy on both sides, we got back together. We had a talk to set some boundaries, one of them was that we would cut contact with the people we were seeing during our break.
We are usually very communicative, but one Sunday she sort of disappeared, I didn’t mind it, I simply thought she was busy. Once she started replying to my texts in the afternoon I asked some normal questions one would make to someone one’s interested in “how was your day” “did you go out?” “Did your sister go with you?” She got defensive, and told me I was being insecure.
Long story short, I later found out she was with the person she was seeing during our break, I felt hurt and betrayed. She claims nothing happened and they were just talking, she told me the things they talked about were private so she is not going to elaborate.
Is it unreasonable to think this is a huge breach of trust? What would you do in my position? She doesn’t seem to see my point, I’m hurt and disappointed.
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Was it clear that you guys were exclusive again on both sides when she did this? If not, it’s not really your business since it wasn’t exclusive. If so, this is a huge breach of trust especially since she won’t elaborate on anything. That’s like spending a day with an ex and blowing it off. Any relationship would see that as a problem
You should break up again for good. She doesn’t respect you. If you don’t want a wife who sneaks around meeting old lovers behind your back you have to break up with the girlfriends who do. She failed the audition. Don’t be a doormat.
They fucked
Once trust has been broken, it can never be repaired but the cracks will always be there
Cheater! Leave or you’ll just regret it later
Getting back together after a break up is rarely a good idea.
The girl you are seeing now just proved why.
My dad had a saying, “Always trust your first instinct.”
If she was an understanding partner and truly innocent, she would have taken the time to explain what happened so as to be considerate of your feelings. The fact she got defensive and called you insecure immediately is pretty much proof she is cornered and feels guilty.
Time to break it off with her for good.
That should be relationship ending for you. Heck, you should have never got back together. She probably broke up just to date that guy in the first place and you are plan b.
It’s kind of staggering how someone would choose to hide that kind of contact when things were already shaky… but if you want a relationship built on real trust, you gotta ask yourself if this is something you can move past or if it’s time to walk away before it gets worse.