I’ll try to keep it short. But just wondering what I should try if anything before ending this?
My wife and I have been homeless for a few months and have been hotel hopping. I lost my old job a few months back due to her getting in a fight with a resident (we lived on the job site) and then messaging them threats from my Facebook on my iPad. We both got arrested but I was later released. She got sentenced two weeks ago to 12 months with 11.5 suspended. Her last day before leaving, we donated blood to pay for the room so me and the kids could stay in there until I worked the next day. When she got to the room she had spent over half of the donation saying she needed food from Wawa. We already had food at the hotel. So we couldn’t pay and when she left I had to sleep outside and send the kids with my mom to Maryland for a week. Fast forward to now she got released Saturday and went to donate to help with Sundays room fee. Then spent the donation again. Whenever I ask about why she did something else when we had a plan I get told that she doesn’t need me and will leave if I keep questioning. So I had to get a loan Sunday to pay. On my way to work now and shes I guess mad at me for not speaking to her but I’m just kind of over it. We have tried counseling but it never leads to any changes. What do it do? Or has this marriage run it’s course?
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You need to start thinking about what’s best for your kids.
Leave her immediately. I’m sorry for what you’re going through. Since you don’t have a job, why don’t you go to Maryland as well if your mom allows? If not maybe your mom can watch the kids longer while you find a new job and apartment near your mom in Maryland. I highly recommend you live near your mom since you need to create a support system immediately.
File for divorce, send kids to mom, work ass off to get back on feet, retrieve kids. That first part is important. Theres a good chance your soon ex-wife is about to use those kids like bargaining chips. Get the lawyers and get them away. Verbal agreements are how poor people screw themselves over.
I almost never say yes. But yes.
Leave those kids with your mother until you get your shit together. While you’re doing that, get a vasectomy
Get a different room with the loan and leave her ass. She has drug you down took bottom. Leave, dude.
Get away from your wife. She’s selfish and destructive. Do what’s in the best interest of you and your children and get out of this situation. Don’t lose your kids because of your wife.
Dude, get the fuck away from her. That’s a terrible situation and it’s all her fault. She’s dragging you and your kids down with her, and what kind of a life is that for them?
Sounds like addict behavior