Location: North Carolina
Hi everybody, I have an odd question. So, my father killed himself in January 2017 in Florida. (Parents were divorced and we had moved to NC in 2010) Before he died, he was on house arrest awaiting felony pretrial for drug possession, drug trafficking, drug use, violent resist to arrest, child porn tapes, severe abandonment and neglect of the ranch animals especially all 41 of his Arabians etc. (He offed himself before trial, probably since there was a high chance it would be life in prison or close to that). I wanted to reach out to attorney for case details, and how he was acting before his death, things he may have said, specific things that happened etc.
I went on trellis and found documents that somewhat ease my curious mind but there’s so much missing leading up to his death.
I suppose it’s a way for closure because I never got closure. I hadn’t even talked to him or seen him in a year before he died. I’m 25 now and he died when I was almost 16, almost 17. The reality of his condition what hidden from me by my mother at the time so his death was a shock to me. I knew he did drugs, I just didn’t know how bad it really was. How far gone he had become. Last I saw him was summer of 2015. My older siblings and mom saw it coming, his death. Not me.
I thought I was past this, but I’ve been triggered by my spouse who relapsed on alcohol and I’ve been thinking about my dad’s condition a lot. Needing relief. Closure. Something. I’m not sure how weird it would be if I reached out to the attorney. I know he will remember my father, it was a major big case. I have his professional and personal email from case files I discovered on trellis website.
Since my father is deceased, does client-attorney confidentiality still apply?
I don’t know, I just need relief. Maybe this is just the grief in my mind needing to find answers. I felt very abandoned by him before his death. Emotionally and physically. This grief is hitting me so immensely today even though it’s been 8 years.
Should I send the email? Please be honest but kind. I am dealing with a lot right now emotionally and I’m at a loss with this grief.