No, the title is not wrong. My MIL simulated her husband’s death with the help of one of her granddaughters and her SIL. The reason was that she wanted to see my SO.
When SO was on the plane she texted me an apology “sorry but there was no other way to see him” without explaining me that FIL wasn’t actually dying.
Nobody did a thing about it. Not Jesus FIL superstar, not SO, actually not even me (I suppose I was shocked but the truth is that some of my friends knew it and they surely weren’t in shock and still didn’t tell me to do something, so I also suppose in our culture we’re used to parents being like this.)
Anyway, time passed, I went NC, and now FIL is dying again but I blocked them all. And I just realised it’s the second time for FIL to die
Edit: someone looked for my post history and left a very mean comment. Idk if there is a MIL gang here or what, but just for you to know, I’m not posting in a place that says “OP’s feelings come first” to allow this to happen. And please do not give away diagnosis on the internet
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The FIL who cried wolf!
This is wild.
Let me see if I understand this
Are you saying that they faked FIL dying, and both your friends and family all knew that they were faking it but didn’t warn you guys.
Your husband was flying to them when you found out but your husband still went
And now he’s actually dying
I don’t understand why your husband rewarded them by still visiting. Did their plan work? Did they then have a relationship? How did your husband feel about what they did? What is your husband planning to do now? Is MIL going to expect that you HAVE to take care of her?
I don’t understand why people do these things 🤷🙄
Which culture is it that fakes deaths to manipulate family members?
I don’t blame you, stay out of the chaos and let your spouse handle it. They didn’t think about this the last time assuming he’s actually dying this time.
What culture are you talking about? I can’t believe they did that. I would have gone NC too.
The title of this post is golden and it’s sad we all understood what happened without even reading the entire post!
My grandma called me over a decade ago to tell me, my mom was dying. I had just moved out of state with my first husband and that was her way to get me back to our home state. Sounds like your mil and my grandma think the same way. Sorry you are dealing with this.
>Nobody did a thing about it. Not Jesus FIL superstar, not SO, actually not even me
What do you think you should have “done about it”? You went no contact. What else was there to do?
This is one of the most twisted, manipulative games I’ve ever heard of people playing, and it calls to one’s mind “the boy that cried wolf.”
This is evidence of deep dysfunction, which I would want as little to do with as possible.
> When SO was on the plane she texted me an apology “sorry but there was no other way to see him” without explaining me that FIL wasn’t actually dying.
The important thing to remember is that this is a lie.
She absolutely could see SO again, but that would involve boundaries and respecting them.
This is the only way to see SO while defeating those boundaries.
I’m sorry, I know that this is serious, and awful, and F her x 1000, but Jesus FIL Superstar has just had me howling for a good 20 minutes so thank you, needed a good laugh!
My grandpa died twice. He was a mean abusive man who never tried to get to know his grandkids. About 8 years ago my mom got a call from her brothers saying he was on his deathbed. My mom gave her condolences and we all moved on. A few months later she got another call that he was on his deathbed. Turns out he had short period of not dying and no one called to let us know so we assumed he was dead. This time he really kicked the bucket.
To loop in a MIL story related to the events, he died right before Easter. I went to my now ex husband’s parents for Easter dinner. We were all seated around the table catching up and my ex shared out of nowhere that my grandpa had died. His family knew about my grandpa being a POS. I never met him once in 30+ years and only knew him from the stories about how he would drunkly hold a loaded gun to my grandmas head while threatening to pull the trigger. And how he abused her in other ways. Naturally my ex MIL was the forgive and forget type so she asked me if now I regretted never reaching out to get to know him. I looked her in the eyes and said “If I believed in hell I would hope that piece of shit is there burning for eternity” then went back to eating my dinner. You could hear a pin drop. It was one event in a laundry list of why I did not fit into that family.
OP, what was the comment and where was it posted? Do tell