My ex(30F) and I(31M) broke up after I found out she was emotionally cheating with someone she met online gaming. She says NOTHING sexual ever happened but she deleted every message already so I couldn’t confirm it myself. I left the house and came back after a few days to officially tell her we were broken up and I don’t see a relationship with her anymore, despite her wanting couples therapy. I left again for my parents place and stayed there for the next couple weeks. I have also been fully financially supporting both of us for the past ~3 years while she goes to school online. She finished 9 months ago.
Eventually i came back to grab some stuff and decided to charge the ring camera doorbell in the living room. I told her it was there and she can movie it.
She never moved it and 2 days later I decided to check if she moved it because I felt a lot of anxiety. I heard her having phone sex with someone. I just knew it was the same guy. I came the next day and said I knew it was the same guy and she confirmed it.
Now I am demanding she sign the lease buy-out agreement($3.5k) so we can just end it completely. She doesn’t have to pay the 3.5k and she gets a month only paying her portion of the rent, I’ll cover the full 3.5k. She said no and I’m thinking about taking EVERYTHING and putting it into the 2nd bedroom. This includes the tv, the bed, and the tv stand and night stands. This would leave her with nothing as she paid for nothing until she buys it herself and we’d share a place for 5 months, and she barely got a job 2 weeks ago. She is willing to pay half the rent but I don’t think I can live with her as she still talks to the guy often. I’ll also add she doesn’t make a lot and I don’t think she’ll be able to cover her portion of the rent and utilities, but I don’t know for sure.
She also wants to still get back together and is willing to never talk to him again, but I’m done.
What would you do in this situation?
TL;DR: 31M broke up with 30F ex after emotional cheating. I’ve been financially supporting us for 3 years, and now we’re stuck on a lease together. I want a clean break and offered to pay the $3.5k lease buyout, but she refuses. Not sure how to move forward.
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Move everything out or she might damage or steal it.
You can’t trust her after what she’s done and she’s clearly got no regard for you or your stuff.
Just protect your peace and don’t worry about anything happening to her. Keep your head down til the lease is over and then leave her in the past.
Get out of there honestly, in my opinion she doesn’t deserve to have you. Obviously she is curious about having a relationship with this dude online so let her go and do that. It’s awful and sad and I’m so sorry but she doesnt have anything else to offer to your life. Leave her with nothing because that’s what she deserves in all honesty. Sounds like she did not help support your guys’ partnership emotionally or physically paying for shit either. Let her sit with the consequences and end the lease, and take your shit.
Yea, do it. Like why even ask here.
You gave her an out and she didn’t take it so you have no obligation to make her comfortable, I would do everything in my power to annoy her till she leaves
Move out and turn the electricity off if you can. Remove all of your furniture, the bed, the tv, the kitchen supplies, WVERYTHING. Maybe even go to the prank store and drop stink bombs in it so she really gets the message. I’m sure she won’t want to live there anymore once you remove everything.
After she leaves just forge her signature if she won’t sign it.
Be Petty, be swift- Move out and but make it absolutely uninhabitable.
If you aren’t going to buy a house and don’t mind wrecking your credit don’t even pay next months rent, let the eviction notice hit the door and threaten to take her credit down with you if she doesn’t leave. See if you can win the chicken game.
Trying to get back together would have maybe been an option if she didn’t have phone sex with the guy. She showed her true colors, and she won’t stop cheating.
How does she want to get back together after continuing cheating after you left? Is she dillusional? I think she wants to stay with you due to financial reasons…