TLDR:My fiance and I have went on a break for mental health however I don’t know if I’m misreading signals of a permanent situation.
My partner F 35 and myself M 25 we have been together for a year. We agreed we needed to step back and take a break from the relationship. I am in another country due to the military the break is for us to work on ourselves mentally. However we still have been texting every day my goal is obviously for us to come back to each other. We still say I love you etc. however whenever I bring up my progress and my goal of us coming back together healthier she will say things such as “if we start a relationship again”. I don’t know how to navigate the situation how should I navigate everything? Is this her pulling away slowly before we just end it all.
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“If we start a relationship again”
That would be my queue to stop texting.
Either you break up or you don’t. Extended limbo is good for no one in this situation unless you enjoy being strung along.
NTA. This feels like she’s just stringing you along. The “I love you” every day keeps you hooked, but the way she says “if” instead of “when” shows she’s already halfway gone. That’s not fair to you because it keeps you stuck, not knowing whether to hold on or let go.You need to be straight with her. Tell her you need to know what this really is. Ask if the break is about fixing things so you can get back together, or if she’s just using it as an easy way to end it.It might hurt to hear the truth, but at least you won’t be wasting yourself on false hope. You deserve to know if you’re fighting for something real or if it’s time to start healing on your own.