Okay so I know that this might be an obvious answer but I just want to post it on Reddit bc I know that other people might have gone through the same thing and I need perspective
So I feel like I’m not over my ex, we dated for 4 years before I met my now husband, yeah I know it’s messy..
Long story short, my husband doesn’t prioritize me, avoids every conversation, puts his mom above me, and genuinely treats me like shit (says that he doesn’t know he married someone so ugly etc) he admits that he is not being a good guy to me but says that he doesn’t know what to do about it or how to change
I ran into my ex at a party and heard about his new gf and couldn’t help feel sad. I feel bad that I have feelings over it too?
Me and my husband have talked seriously about therapy sessions and getting a legal separation and I partly feel awful that I have these feelings but I also feel like it is because he treated me so much better idk what to think
Tl;DR possibly not over my ex and want more perspectives
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It’s not that you’re not over your ex, it’s that the vision of an alternative life, even a past one, looks very appealing when you have a partner that actively dislikes you or won’t meet your needs. It’s not that complicated: just separate, the guy sounds like he can’t be bothered to do anything to help the relationship. Someone WILL love you and listen to you, you don’t have to live like this.