Coworker F (44) have asked me out. Should I say yes?

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I (F39) have known my coworker for over 5 years at work. We’ve bonded really well both in personal and professional space. We sit close to each other, often have plans together after office or in weekends. I have always felt comfortable being vulnerable in front of her, and she’s known all my troubles and tragedies. We’ve both had disappointing relationships with men in our life and have often ranted how it’s impossible to be around with men and have peace in life.

A year ago she came out of a messy divorce and has worked hard to heal herself. Last week while we were going on a drive together she’s casually brought up the question of us being involved romantically. She asked me to give it a thought that if I’m interested in dating her.

My coworker had past same sex relationship with women, so I can see how she could feel easy with it. I on the other hand have never had a lesbian relationship, a lot of it probably having to do with my faith and the way I was raised. As much as I thought I would feel repulsed or bad with her asking me out, a part of me wonders how it could actually be like.

To those who have never been in a same sex/lesbian relationship, were you ever able to set a mind to have a lesbian relationship later in life? How do I decide if I truly want to or not try out a lesbian relationship? What should I look for, or expect in the relationship?

TL;DR: got asked out for a lesbian relationship, don’t know if I should say yes or no.

Comments

  1. Denolth Avatar

    Maybe go with her, see what she has to say, could be fun. Just keep in mind that you’ll have to keep seeing her daily at work, so if things don’t work out, make sure you part ways the best way possible

  2. ParticularFar8574 Avatar

    The answer is yes. You should. Yes to later on in life. How do you know? You know. It’s something you want to try, something you know you already want. Don’t deny yourself, and you really don’t need to ask other people. It’s like being heterosexual, if it’s something you like, what, enjoy, need, etc… you do it. This is just different to the norm. Go for it. You’re not getting younger.