I’ve been seeing this woman. We’ve been dating for about a month. She’s 8 years older than me and moved from the US to the UK 5 months ago.
I had a conversation with her last night. Said I really like spending time with her but I was a bit concerned about timelines and whether we align long term.
We don’t really if I’m honest. The big one is she says she’s pretty confident she doesn’t want kids. I don’t want them immediately. But next 3-5 years yes.
I got some kinda confusing messages. She was very clear what she meant. But she said she had no urgency to commit and felt it was too soon. She said she really likes me and could see this going somewhere. But also was clear she has no urgency on timelines or anything. Said she was aware that I ‘may have more urgency than her’ due to my age. And also said because she’s just moved and also she’s only been single about 4-5 months that it’s a bit strange for her. Said she didn’t expect to meet someone she likes like this.
I think from this it’s fairly obvious she isn’t my forever person. And she’s been very understanding. It’s refreshing how upfront she is. But also I’m now worried.
I really enjoy spending time with her. And she said she doesn’t want to rush into anything serious. But also, how will I ever get serious with someone who isn’t aligned long term.
I feel like I’d like to keep seeing her. But also worry I’ll end up missing my chance at anything else. Considering I’m 29 next month. But also unsure I’m overthinking and if I should just enjoy.
Need some advice. Thanks
Tl;dr met someone but don’t align long term. Unsure how to proceed
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Didn’t you just post this a couple days ago? If not, I guess it’s a common problem with couples with your exact age gap. Anyway, if you’re not aligned about kids, break up. There’s no compromise about something like that.