We called my MIL today. My husband began the phone call telling her we are angry and will not tolerate her continuing to disrespect us. She made some excuses, and I asked to talk to her, and overheard her say “oh brother, what now”. I explained that we feel disrespected when she continually does something we asked her not to do for his safety and it’s not okay for her to put her wants above his needs and our authority as his parents. She said something about how she hopes we can understand her side of things and that she’s just such an emotional person and can’t help herself because she just wants to get on him, and that her heart is aching because she has a grandson she can’t touch (which is never something we said.) And now she says she’ll never touch him or come near him again, she’ll just look at him. Which joke’s on her, because she won’t be seeing him or me any time soon. I told my husband he is free to go to her house if she invites him over, but the baby and I will not be participating indefinitely. I’m so angry with her and angry it has come to this after all my husband, my son, and myself have been through.
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Good for you. She is an adult and if she can’t control her emotions and actions then she’s not a safe person for any baby to be around.
You’ve done the right thing.
If she’s too emotional to follow basic rules, then she’s too emotional to be a part of your and your child’s life.
It’s all an act. She’s trying to get you to grovel and say noooo mom we’re so sorry don’t do that of course you can hold him. Don’t give in and I guarantee you she will cave when she realizes you are not going to give in to her manipulation
“We didn’t say you couldn’t touch or come near our baby – but we hear and respect your decision to do that in order to control your emotions, and will certainly support you in that choice going forward.”
Y’all did the right thing
Honestly, good. If she wants to pull the nuclear card, then let her. Then when she keeps complaining, remind her that she CHOSE this.
Hold your boundaries. She is pushing the line and your little one is too fragile for that.
Good. I’m so sick of her victim BS. She is so selfish and she puts her stupid desires before your son’s safety.
She can’t control herself? Yeah nah. I can be an emotional woman but trust me when I say that I always abide by the child’s parents’ wishes/orders/priorities. I’m 55 too. OP, you are doing so well and I love your decision.