I’ve got a long history with my MIL but tldr she’s always hated me and after years of trying to get on her good side, the feeling is mutual. She said horrible things about me for years and she’s not all that nicer to my husband. I would consider myself VLC. Husband is more LC.
My MIL is due to visit in the coming days. I’ve already been down about it as I can’t recall a single time I’ve enjoyed her company but as of late she’s been less annoying than usual so I was trying to hold on to hope that maybe it won’t be so bad. They’re coming to see my 6 month old for the 1st time since shortly after his birth, I was hoping we coud just enjoy the baby together. I haven’t spoken to her since she visited last, My husband talks to her on the phone a couple of times a month. We usually see her in person 1-2 times a year.
We were recently informed that she has been speaking poorly of us to other people. Things like I ruined her special relationship with her son (she is truly delusional on this one) and that she’s concerned about the way we’re parenting our son as it’s not up to her standards apparently (her 5 hours with us when he was barely born and a 5-10 minute phone call a few times a month has obviously given her ample knowledge of our parenting). I’m also a SAHM so I know that is mostly just a dig at me. I’m not surprised honestly, as this isn’t the first time something like this has happened but I’m still upset.
I’m incredibly annoyed. Now I am completely dreading seeing her and I have no hope it will be pleasant. I wonder if she’ll have the nerve to insult me as both a wife and a mother straight to my face. I almost wish we had not been informed of this until after the visit was over, it’d make things so much easier. I wish there was a practical/realistic way out of this. We’ve got some strong boundaries in place for the visit already, I was feeling a bit guilty about them but now I’ve got more resolve than ever. Wish me luck everyone.