Partner M32, call me F33 at any slight feeling of pressure or feeling like he has to change something against his will, he calls me pushy. He is extremely stubborn and is never open to change. Example, we throw a lot of food out because he refuses to meal prep and insists on cooking fresh food each night. He also won’t use the freezer because he can’t be bothered to defrost. I asked him to avoid food waste which irritates me, to either cook at the same time and eat one later or put in the freezer. He just said he doesn’t want to and called me pushy. He often refers to me as a pushy person when I suggest we do things in a certain way. I just want to have a conversation and have a little more yes dear for things like this because it makes the most sense. I feel we battle over the smallest things because he just puts his foot down.
We have been together 4 years, he comes from an only child background which means he is very independent and head strong whereas I’m a bit more wishy-washy.
How can we come together, meet in the middle and keep him from not feeling pressured when I make suggestions? Is this a male thing?
Tldr: partner calling me pushy for asking him to do domestic tasks
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This isn’t a male thing, your partner is just a selfish child.
He’s acting very immature for someone his age.