Me ‘F/35’ my boyfriend ‘M/37’ I’m looking for some advice because I’m feeling a little lost. My boyfriend and I have been together 2 years, and in the beginning our sex life was very active and fulfilling, usually everyday, sometimes multiple times a day. Lately, though, it feels like we’ve been having sex less and less. It’s usually just once a week. Twice if i get lucky from annoying him about it and he feels bad. Outside of sex our relationship is very strong. We verbalize how much we love each other everyday. we laugh together, we’re affectionate, and we’re supportive of each other. But I can’t help feeling worried and a little rejected when the intimacy isn’t there. I’ve tried initiating more often, but sometimes he doesn’t seem interested. I guess I’m just wondering — is this kind of slowdown normal? How do I bring it up without making him feel attacked or guilty? Has anyone been through something similar and found ways to reconnect sexually?
TL;DR went from alot of sex to barely having sex. What does it mean?
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It’s normal to show down. You’re moving from the honeymoon phase into something deeper and more whole. Life has crept in and caught up. The two of you are partners now for everything, not just sex. I feel like initiating more is the wrong answer here. You need to talk to him. Your honeymoon phase level loving might be putting stress on him.