Five and a half years ago I (27f now and 21f at the time) caught my sister (25f and 20f at the time) and my then-boyfriend making out and getting ready to fuck each other’s brains out at a family party. I lost my shit on the two of them. I threw him back his promise ring and I called her a sl*t and told her she was dead to me and that one day I hoped she’d face real consequences for screwing people’s boyfriends and husbands.
Because that wasn’t her first time doing something like that. She did it to a friend before me and she did it to her college roommate too. But at the time I had to stop myself from attacking her because I wanted to so badly. We had been close. Less because of her actions toward others. But I still hoped she would do better. Once she screwed around with my boyfriend, now ex, I was done with her.
I’ve seen her a couple of times since but I don’t have a relationship with her anymore. I moved on. I have a fiancé now and we’re happy. He met her for the first time a month ago when we visited mom for her birthday. My sister was there and while I was talking to someone else she went to speak to my fiancé. When I saw I excused myself and went over to them and asked my fiancé if she was trying to get with him too. He said no but she was being pushy and my sister was like wtf and she told me it was uncalled for to treat her that way. I said I wouldn’t trust her around anyone’s partner and the only reason I wasn’t freaking out was because I trust my fiancé.
We tried to walk away from her but she wanted to fight about it and she asked me why I was so determined to treat her like a criminal when I was the one who called her a sl*t and never apologized. I told her because I wasn’t sorry, I didn’t regret what I said I stood by it because that’s all I see her as.
She drew attention and our parents came over. They asked what was going on and she was getting hysterical about everything I had said. They asked me why I said that and I told them because I didn’t trust her around my fiancé and my trust in him was the only reason I didn’t lose my mind completely. They asked us not to fight during mom’s birthday celebration and to please try and get along. But she wanted an apology and I refused to give one and I refused to stay and chat to her so we moved around a lot until we left.
AITA?
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NTA. Hey, sometimes you just gotta call a s*** a s***. Don’t ever turn your back on that woman again. NTA.
NTA. what she did was inexcusable and you said the right thing. if anything, she should be the one to apologise, not you.
NTA.
Yes she should be the one to apologise for f**king your previous boyfriend
NTA. If the description fits,…
OP, if it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck and looks like a duck… then it IS a duck.. well in your sister’s case a s**t.
NTA. How was she being pushy with your fiance tho? Sorry I’m nosy haha 🤣
If she didn’t want trouble she should have never approached your fiancé !! She knew what she was doing , if she just wanted to open communication with you and get him to help she should have had someone with her !! NTA
Nta. She is what you called her. If the shoe fits lace that bitch up and own it.
NTA. She betrayed you in the worst way. If anyone should be apologizing, it’s her.
NTA. She’s a standard pick me that wants to “get” taken men to validate herself. I’m special, I can get a man!
My response would be “well, I would have called you a wh*re, but they’re good enough to get paid and you have to give it away for free. And ‘cheap desperate pick-me with no self esteem’ is a mouthful.”
I’m sorry. I’m sorry you’re a s!ut, I’m sorry I ever trusted you, I’m sorry I have to deal with you at family gatherings, and I’m sorry you’re my sister.
NTA. Her past behavior is what it is and cannot be undone. You do not owe her any forgiveness or apologies. She is the one who must admit her past actions and she is the one who must apologize.
NTA. If she wants to be treated differently she should act differently. Did she even apologize? She acts the same way.
NTA – there’s a lot of support these days for women not being called exactly what they are.
It’s sort of a protection scheme where modern society tries to paper over bad risky behavior as being “empowering” somehow.
We don’t have to buy into that bullshit. I have no problem when people‘s actions dictate the labels they receive .
Your sister has proved herself to be untrustworthy, at a minimum. And someone very deserving of that label.
Fake. Your parents are totally oblivious as to why you would say those things to her? Totally oblivious as to why you haven’t been in contact for years?
NTA. Everyone knows what she does, why are they confused as to why you won’t apologize. You did exactly what you needed to do. keep her actions relevant and repeated. Other people can let her behavior slide, but you won’t.
Well…. this is truly a moment of f*cked around and found out…
NTA. Fuck that skank.