He will text me things while at work like “hey when I get home we should go get ice cream and hang out!” Or “we should go somewhere nice to eat tonight!” But then when he gets home he acts like he never texted me those things and if I ask him about them he’ll be like “oh….you still want to do that?” Almost shocked as if I remember that he texted me those things.
He is also a lot easier to talk to if he’s at work.. if I I have to tell him something I know will upset him I tell him while he’s at work because I know he will be more calm and more likely to not get angry with me compared to if I were to tell him in person.
I just assume he’s in a better mood at work because he’s around some of his friends and they put him in a good mood and when he’s here it’s me and our kid and we just exhaust him. Idk but I find it a little odd.. why would he be happier or in a better mood at work compared to when he’s at home? He works at a restaurant btw idk if that even matters..
TL;DR: boyfriend is only nice and lively and energetic when he’s at work. He becomes a completely different person once hes at home.
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This is something you just have to ask him.
maybe it’s not meant to be if his mood is better when he’s away from you
Did you ask him? “I notice that during work hours, you are generally enthusiastic and cheerful when I communicate with you, but we see less of that version of you at home, which of course we love to see. Can you tell me more about what happens over the course of the day, or between work and home?” The tone should be curious rather than accusatory, and the conversation should be had a neutral time (when you’re not in the middle of an argument).
Right now, you’re asking the internet about his experience, and he’s the only one who can tell you that. You also want to be careful about writing stories, and instead turn them into questions. Rather than, “we exhaust him,” ask him, “Do we exhaust you?” Or perhaps less charged: “Do you find home more exhausting than work?”
Once you actually understand what’s going on, you and he can figure out what you might want to do next.
Simple answer is he is not into his family (you, child). Home = stress, work = stress free. You are bordering on some major relationship issues.
I am guessing he is tired at the end of the day. But it also sounds like he doesn’t like you very much. He’s pretending he didn’t know what he texted earlier?
When he texts that stuff start calling him out. “I’d enjoy doing X, but the past has taught me that you’ll change or mind or forget you asked before you get home, so we’ll see how your memory is tonight.”
You can analyze with strangers or by yourself all you want but if this is true you should prob break up with