The title says it all. My best friend’s little brother has a slight developmental delay, mostly in terms of social maturity, and he just admitted to me that he finally has a gift for his yoga instructor/therapist: a one-day getaway (not including him) costing no less than 500 dollars. He insists she’s helped him so much this year and he’s known her for quite a while (friggin 6 months is quite a while according to him).
She is your average gorgeous yoga instructor: great body, long blonde hair and far too much unwanted attention directed her way. He, on the other hand, is a scrawny, slightly physically disabled young man with no past experience with women. He’s disabled, but not in a way that he’s wheelchair bound, so she could become scared of him.
I tried to convince him not to do it. I feel uneasy telling his sister because he’s told just me about it for a reason. I’m just convinced she’s going to really be put off by this and that their relationship is nowhere near as intimate as he’s convinced himself it is.
How do you guys think this will end? Should I make more efforts to stop him?
TL;DR Best friend’s slightly autistic brother wants to give hot yoga therapist a personal gift of over 500 dollars. Should I make efforts to stop him?
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Tell him that you and his sister need to discuss it and how very inappropriate it is. He needs to know that his gift will not be well received and can very well lead to her dropping him as a client.
“Yoga therapist” im assuming is a medical professional. It would be unethical for her to even accept the gift.
tell his sister. he needs to know that as much as it really is a nice gesture, it simply is not appropriate, but there’s some other much smaller gift he could give her if he insists.
That is highly inappropriate and won’t be received well, simply due to the fact that it’s a seemingly random and expensive gift. You need to talk to him straight up and tell him it’s not appropriate.
The only time I ever gave a gift to someone I paid for a service was my physiotherapist who was leaving to pursue uni lecturing. I gave them a bar of soap that I handmade. It smelled nice and I wanted to share it with people. It was not an expensive gift that felt like there were strings attached.