We’ve been talking on Instagram for almost a month now. Both the avoidant type but he randomly responded to one of my stories and we’ve been non stop talking since. Both haven’t dated in ages, in to rush and kind of the “when love comes, it’ll come” types. Both have expressed how we enjoy being single and are very selective but if ANYTHING, we want a relationship- nothing casual.
My concern is that he’s described himself as not affectionate and non chalant and I’m starting to see it more and more by the day. Me myself I’m a huge lover girl, very passionate and affectionate; not clingy at all as I value independence, but I have big feelings and I like to show and express my sincere love. He on the other hand is VERY genuine and a sweetheart from what I see so far, but I’m worried if his indifferent kind of personality would fit with mine who’s very chalant.
I’m noticing his inexpressive personality is creating a type of anxious attachment style with him even though things haven’t yet progressed further than messaging. (We send videos and pictures daily too- both hate calls and FT’ing as we have busy lives) I’m usually extremely secure, so this type of anxiousness within relationships is new to me. From your experience, do non chalant partners go well with those who are very expressive and affectionate? TIA for answers
TL;DR: can a non chalant man go well with an affectionate woman?
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Yes, it can work if you both meet in the middle. Different love languages aren’t a dealbreaker, but if his lack of affection keeps leaving you anxious, that’s a real mismatch to consider. Compatibility is less about sameness and more about effort to meet each other’s needs