I literally do not know what to do. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about a year now and hes like a typical gym guy who hyperfocuses on the gym and what hes eating. Sometimes he sends me pics of his food, because I do the same and we thought it was nice to share this with each other when we aren’t physically together.
I’ve noticed that he often just shows me things like raw steak on a plate and raw eggs and a bottle of raw milk and ect. I thought he was just putting it there as ingredients and that he was gonna cook it, but no… he told me he just eats it like this.
I was kinda confused and shocked by this, because… WHY? We had things in health class about this and out teacher explicitly told us NOT to do that, for obvious reasons like parasites, salmonella and other diseases, but apperantly that wasnt clear to him.
He told me he HAD to eat it like that, because the nutritional value, but the nutritional value is TINYYY and the health risk are BIG. I’ve showed him studies, documentaries and even brought it up in school (without his name obviously, I just asked something along the lines of “Why shouldnt we eat raw meat and all then?” followed by a long explanation of our teacher)
I obviously can’t stop it, but I will definitely NOT support this, I’m super worried about his health. He knows I dont like it, I hate it even, which is why I was just shocked to receive a video from him of him eating a raw piece of meat from the supermarket this morning. It was a timelaps and everything, he send it to me purposely, knowing I don’t like it at all.
What do I even do atp? I obviously cant stop him but I dont want to be around this either, but I feel like breaking up with him over this would be stupid. I’ve tried to talk to him, but its like talking to a brick wall.
How do I stop him from eating raw meat or do I just leave him be and ignore it? I’m very worried about his health, especially because he already has heart problems he was born with.
TL;DR: My boyfriend keeps eating raw meat, eggs and milk and I dont know what to do or if I should just do nothing.
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One of the biggest lessons in life to learn is to not date stupid people. It makes your own life so much easier.
How much less stressful would your life be if you didnt have to worry about him poisoning himself every day. Focus on discovering who you are, who you want to be, where you want to go in life and begin making plans toward that goal. This is a hard world. Dont make it harder by lashing yourself to stupid people.
He fell into the slop that people try to sell him on TikTok/Instagram/…
It’s no different from conspiracy theorists.
Think about whether this is a deal breaker for you or not, or prepare to sit through a session of deworming and/or salmonella treatment with him for him to wake up.
You’re right, you can’t change him. You have discussed the issue with him and he has stated he will not change. You either decide to live with it or move on. That’s all you can do. Though if you choose to live with it, I suggest you all stop sending g pics of food to one another so you do t have to see it.
Why would breaking up with him be stupid?
We are allowed to break up with someone for any reason.
Also, while (especially at your age) it may seem like everyone is going to judge you for your actions, a part of growing up is learning that being true to yourself is more important than what other people think.
We each have boundaries, which in this case, are limits to what we feel are appropriate behaviours from those around us. If those boundaries are broken, we have a choice of two actions: end the relationship or accept that you have to adjust the boundary.
This sounds like a boundary you don’t want to adjust; nor should you have to accept it. What he’s doing is bad for his health and affects you.
You don’t need a reason to break up with someone.
Though in this case you have plenty of reason.
Nah, breaking up over this is valid. It’s the same as breaking up over one partner being an anti vaccer. What if he gets salmonella or ecoli and infects your food or you directly with it? Are you going to let this guy give you diarrhea because he can’t comprehend basic hygiene and contamination risks? Where does his inability to think one thought end, and what if he gets into other fad diets and risky lifestyle choices? Does he even remotely care about hygiene, especially in the kitchen? What if he gets so sick that you feel like you have to take care of him, when he’s the one who’s purposely risking his health?
If he can’t comprehend that he might accidentally kill himself with this (especially due to his heart problems), then he won’t be able to comprehend the same thing when you’re telling him. It doesn’t matter to him, frankly. He seems pretty much set on pushing back on your concerns, especially when he sends you videos of him doing the thing you hate so much.
It’s his health. His life. His choices. Some people seem to be out for the Darwin awards, and he wants to be one of them. He knows the risks and yet he has DECIDED that he does not want to change his behavior. His perceived rewards outweigh the risks he’s aware of, so you can’t reason with him anymore. He’s thought about your reasons and decided that he does not value them above his own. That’s a choice right there.
You’re 17 – don’t put so much thought into a guy who doesn’t even put that much thought into himself. There are lots of people out there who’ll bring their brain to the table, and who won’t treat you like an adversary for being worried about them. Break up before he gives you whatever else he might be unhygienic about.
You have a relationship with an idiot or an ass. It’s gross and ill informed. Why would you want this?
He has a significant lack of intelligence. Breaking up with someone for that reason is perfectly valid.
You can’t control others actions just your reactions
Break up and move on or just stop bothering him about it
There’s a difference between getting steak tartare in a restaurant vs just eating raw steak out the packet from a supermarket. He’s an idiot. Someone being an idiot in the face of accepted science at risk to their health and yours is an absolutely valid reason to break up.