Power struggle in relationship (23F & 25M)

Hi all!

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months now. We constantly face this push pull/power struggle where he needs more space, I need to feel close. He likes to be in control of certain situations. We hang out a lot, and I like that. To know knowledge I thought he loved hanging out this frequently as much as I do.

We just had the conversation tonight about this again because we got in a tiny argument. He hung up on me at work after he thought I wasn’t listening to him, it hurt my feelings. We then tonight got into a talk about our needs in a relationship. He said ideally he wants 3-4 nights alone, doesn’t want to text at all during work. Which is just the opposite of what we have been doing and I thought we both were on the same page.

It just sucks really bad. Ideally for me I would love to spend nights together and see each other as much as we can/as much as our energy allows. He said he feels like I haven’t budged at all and he has compromised the whole time. We hung out last night and he was very low energy and I offered to leave so he could have alone time. I feel like that is a compromise. My question now is are we even compatible? I am tired of feeling like I am waiting for him to say if we are hanging out, him setting the rules for when we hang out and how often we text each other. It just sucks to be on the other end of it.

TL;DR – constantly in the loop of push pull cycle of boyfriend needing more space and me wanting to be close. It feels like he has all the control. Wondering if we are even compatible together