So this will probably sound very weird but when I was married and 26 (I’m divorced and 39 now) my husband really wanted me to augment my body. He said with a little work I could look just like his fantasy girl. Initially of course I was really upset. We were married for only 18 months at that time and he never complained about my body before. In fact I thought I had a pretty decent body…size 2, 5’7” and a nice bust (C). But he kept telling me I was beautiful but he really wanted me to do this for him. So, of course being the young and wanting to please I agreed to go to a plastic surgeon he found for a consult. She was really nice, but my husband did most of the talking and I finally agreed. Long story short my boobs were enhanced to a full F, my lips were made larger and poutier. Needless to say it was quite a shock getting used to them. Fast forward to today and even though we are divorced I still have the implants. So part of me does enjoy the attention they bring, but part of me is angry with myself for not getting them removed. Anyone else go through anything like this? What did you do?
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I would just work on accepting who you are today rather than going though the traumatic process of trying to reverse a ton of cosmetic surgery, unless it’s physically dangerous to keep it.
I don’t have any experience with this but I’m sorry you went through this. What matters is if you’re comfortable in your body. If you don’t like it and want to remove them, you should. Going forward, only do the things you want to do and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. I’m happy you’re divorced
I work for a plastic surgeon, and I just want to remind you- implants are not permanent devices. If you did in fact have surgery 13 years ago, your existing implants are nearing end of life at worst. You need to really start considering what’s next for you. Removal, removal and replacement with smaller implants, or replacement with similar ones. Also please don’t go back to the surgeon who only listened to your now ex husband and find one who will give you what YOU want. I’d like to slap him for telling you “with a little work you could be his dream girl.” Vomit.
The only question that needs answered is if you want to get them removed because they remind you of your ex husband or because you’re genuinely unhappy with the way they make you look.
Because if it’s the latter, then all the power to you. If doing it would make you happy and more confident that’s absolute what you should prioritize. But if it’s the former, I would at least consider the possibility of not letting him control you even now long after you’re divorced.
ugh I’m so sorry you went thru that. none of it was your fault, you were just trying to love someone who should have loved you as you were. it’s totally normal to feel mixed about it now. whatever you decide to do, just make sure it’s for you this time. ❤️
I would be so mad at him, knowing what he wants means I’ll have to get them redone every 10 years for the rest of my life.
I saw a naked and afraid episode where the lady popped an implant and got taken out on the very first day.
Ugh what a gross piece of shit, I’m so glad you left him. I couldn’t imagine coercing my partner into cosmetic surgery, what the fuck.
Honestly girl your peace of mind is worth at least a consult with a (different) surgeon. Your body is YOUR body, I promise you’ll still get attention without implants or lip fillers. Good luck, as long as you’re happy nothing else matters.
Omg I feel so sad I hate manipulators. If only younger people had more self worth and could turn a conversation round to ‘how about we remove your eyes then the problem wouldn’t exit’
Give yourself grace. We all make choice’s we regret. This is certainly reparable but make sure you are just happy with you. That’s all that matters.
‘You mean I’m NOT your fantasy girl, now? HALF! 🤑”
if it ever stop feeling like you then removal is always an option no shame in reclaiming your body
Why would u even be with someone like this
Life lessons learned the hard way. If you are comfortable and like what YOU see, stay how you are but if you don’t LOVE what you see, if you don’t FEEL beautiful then don’t stay the way you are for the “attention” cuz the only love and attention you need, is your own.
Don’t beat yourself up! Don’t let anger disrupt you. Life is about learning & becoming better, and it seems to me that you’ve learned & grown from that experience. That’s something to be happy about in my opinion. You can always remove or replace the implants. I think the hard part is already behind you. I’m happy for you girl! 💕
My theory is that men want their sexual partners to mimic their favorite porn stars
Thats horrible. if you already werent the girl of his dreams you should have not married him right there and then.
Holy shit!!! An F cup??? Um, a lot of men you’re getting attention from are probably not the type you want in your actual life.
Yes, with what you describe you are like a Lara Croft fantasy video game type 🔥. Of course you’re getting attention.
Your poor back & neck?
Find things YOU can accomplish that make you feel good about yourself!! Don’t rely on external validation from men. (I’m not saying that you do now, but when you were with your ex, you put his sex fantasy over your own body & reality. I hope he Fking PAID for your surgery at least 😡)
They’ll stick their dick in almost any wet h0le. Getting attention from them doesn’t mean shit. In fact, getting attention from shitty low quality porn addicted men is a big pain!!
As a woman over 50, I started to really think about things & understand men in a different (more realistic & less forgiving way)
Do what you want. But big boobs like that seem to:
Get in the physical way of life (exercise, movement)
Cause physical issues (pain & shoulder grooves)
Can get in the way of attracting the good decent men (if you’re interested in them. Not saying you need to be) because if a person can tell that your boobs are big fake ones, some down to earth men will be intimidated or turned off by them. You are probably limiting yourself.
Sorry your ex brainwashed you into thinking that you weren’t enough as you were. I would die to have C cups 😭
And I’m saying this as a woman who honestly regrets not getting a boob job bc my boobs are very small & very very unattractive due to other things not having to do with size 😔
Way to be judgmental of breast size and also insult men at the same time.
“Good decent/down to earth men” can find large breasts attractive, even if they are implants
Having large breasts, natural or not, is not shameful
How did you go from insulting OP to whining that you regret NOT getting implants yourself?!
~someone carting around 32GG natural breasts for nearly 20 years and not having trouble finding a “good decent man” who actually doesn’t even prefer large ones
My partner wanted me to have plastic surgery – breast implants and labiaplasty. I was young while we were together, in my 20’s, and he was ruthless in mocking my body to get me to have these surgeries, even offering to pay for them. I really didn’t want the surgeries and refused (and eventually left him) but the body shaming and mockery has been really hard to overcome and something I still struggle with 20 years later.
Ultimately, it’s your body. Do what feels good for you and any decent partner will accept and love the body you have.
If you did it to please someone else then I’d go get a breast reduction. Your back will thank you. And then you can find a real man who loves you for who you are and doesn’t try to change you to be his type that he wants you to be. My lord.
I’d no question have them removed. Those are big implants. Are your lips filler so it will go away? Can you have it removed?
Big breast just make you look fat; I would definitely down size .
It’s normal to feel conflicted, those changes were made under pressure. Now, focus on what makes you comfortable. Some keep them, some remove them, some adjust mentally. Do what feels right for you, not anyone else.
What a sad story.
Implants caused a fresco develop autoimmune disease after 10 plus years, she had them removed and developed cancer 2 yrs later she was only 48. Why anyone would want big boobs is beyond me. I was a full c cup and with aging they sagged, had a lift n light reduction. Much happier.
Same story happened with my mom and tbh, after the divorce she got them removed. It’s really up to you, my mom has always said she was happier without them, and that it felt like her body was hers again and not some guys.