I hadn’t seen my cat since yesterday. She was originally my wife’s before we got together. My cat isn’t good with people and over the years I became her favorite, she trusted me over anyone including my wife. She would annoy me at times but she’s a cat, doing cat things. Still loving and spending time next to me hanging out.
This morning I let me dog out and poured food. Weirdly didn’t see the cat and figured she’d be hiding somewhere.
Later my wife texts me saying hey have you seen the cat? Say no and that maybe she’s hiding.
I get home before my wife and say hey she’s still missing… I strip search the house, every room, closet and cabinet. I bring around her snacks to entice her to show herself… I sank and knew she was gone.
She always wanted to sneak out.. but she’s an indoor cat. We’d sometimes let her out with supervision and she would just eat grass.
I asked my wife when she got home if she let the dog out late at night… she says yes. I think she snuck out without my wife seeing her..
So I’ve been crying all day. Looked around the neighborhood, called animal control… my wife there to console me. Deep down I’m so angry at her, she was never super careful about not letting her out, and it finally happened. I want to yell at her that it’s all her fault but I know that won’t make it any better… I’m so angry and sad and just want my cat back.
UPDATE: thank you all who displayed kind words, advice and hope for me yesterday. We had left our garage door cracked overnight and this morning she scurried out from under my car. She’s home again and I’m overjoyed.
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That’s heartbreaking. I get why you’re angry, but right now the best thing is to focus on finding her. Put food and a blanket with her scent outside, check at night when it’s quiet, and ask neighbors. Most indoor cats hide close by, you’ve got a real chance of getting her back.
I hope this helps. Do I know whether or not your cat will come back? I do not. But I know when mine got lost a long time ago people would say, there’s a good chance the cat will show up in a few days. And I would think how can you be so fucking stupid? The cat is gone. The cat is never, ever coming back.
It took two weeks.
My geriatric cat with hyperthyroidism got out, he was an in and out cat about six years ago, and was gone 3 days. I was distraught. I put up fliers with a reward and the neighborhood kids found him in buses two doors down. She may not be far.
Check with local vets and shelters to see if anyone has brought her in.
You want to go out now that it’s dark and quiet. Shake a treat bag and call for her. Look for glowing eyes under bushes and cars. Put food and water out near the door she got out of. If you can leave a garage door cracked, and an interior door open, do that. Or open a window with a way to get in from the outside.
Tomorrow, make flyers and hand them out in a six block radius. Ask neighbors to check in sheds and garages, under porches.
She’s likely close by.
I’ve been involved with pet recovery.
Also you can post on every local town page you can find on Facebook. And lost pet pages are usually by town or county. Yard sale pages have a lot of eyes. Just don’t mention cat in the post. Just say lost.
Look very close nearby. My friends cat was gone for 6 days. He was quite literally in the old shed behind her house, hidden and deep under everything
Put your some of dirty laundry out… (blankets, shirts, anything they lay on too) they’re attracted to your scent. On top of everything else other people are commenting. Praying she gets home safe. Update us!
If you’re living in a building and not a house, check the staircases of your building and the rooftop.
Once I lost my buddy (cat), for around 4 days. I searched everywhere.
Then I was shouting his name on that day, and he started meowing.
I discovered that he was on the rooftop.
He was stuck there for all of this time with no food.
Wish you the best of luck in finding your ❤️
Is she microchipped? If so, then whoever finds her may be able to get in touch with you.
Edit: if you find her, you might want to attach an AirTag on her collar so that you can easily find her next time.
Could the cat be in the garage?
That’s where mine was when I thought my cat had run away / been stolen
Print out big color photos of the cat and walk to every house within a block in every direction, ring on the bell and hand them the photo with your number.
This is how I got my cat back
hoping she finds her way back. just try leaving something that smells like u outside or maybe a laundry
Im sorry this happened, but wtf! Blaming your wife is just assholish. Cat run away because it’s a cat, not because it was your wife that happened to be the one opening the door that time. It would have happened eventually anyway. You don’t even know that it happened then. Could have been earlier and could’ve been your ”fault”. What does this blame pointing help? Your bad conscience?
Please don’t be angry with your wife. You said yourself, the cats been trying to get out, and cats are sneaky. Chances are kitty isnt too far away. And if its never been outside before, its probably laying low because the world is big and scary for a cat whose never experienced it. Get the word out, and please, go easy on your wife. You know she didn’t mean it, and you know shed change it if she could.
If you haven’t moved far from where you lived before go back and check there, also ask neighbours to check sheds and garages.
Go out after dark and say (don’t yell) her name gently while shaking her treat bag/container. Put dirty clothes from your hamper by the front and back doors. Go to all your neighbors houses and ask them to look in garages and sheds to make sure she wasn’t trapped anywhere. If you have any enclosed patios double check those and leave closets open just in case. Put water outside but no food or litter as they can attract predators. Put up signs and call all local vets including emergency vets and shelters.
I hope you find your kitty
“I want to yell at her that it’s all her fault…”
Except it isn’t. You took no precautions to keep this from happening. I get so irritated when people have cats that door dash but do NOTHING to mitigate the behavior. Now probably isn’t the time you’ll want to hear it but it’s your cat, your fault.
My sister also has a cat that darts the door. He’ll do it from across the house. And yet somehow it’s never my sister’s fault when he gets out because “everyone knows he does that” yet she takes no steps to stop it. No training, no electric fence, nothing.
So while you’re sad and grieving and stressed, don’t blame someone who isn’t to blame. Shit isn’t healthy anyway.
This might sound peculiar, but talk to other cats in the neighbourhood, explain what’s happened, describe your cat, and ask them to tell her to come home.
I swear this works, call it a coincidence if you wish