I was going through my girlfriend’s mail to find a file she needed for work. Then I saw the texts with her friend. This was close to my birthday 6 months ago.
Her: why can’t I love him like I loved my ex. He would give me his kidney if I needed it. My ex would be drunk. And now I can’t even come up with a single gift for him. I’m disgusting.
Him: because he isn’t right for you
This was 6 months ago. We’ve been dating for a year and 8 months.
She’s compared me to him a couple of times to him through our relationship but it happens when we fight. The most recent being in May. She texted him last month but the messages went green so I’m not sure if he blocked her or not or if he got a new phone.
TLDR: found messages on my girlfriend’s laptop about her questioning why she can’t love me like she loved her ex. What do I do moving forward.
Comments
Dump her and don’t look back. Simple.
First talk to her about it, if she still feel the same its better to end it. Best wishes to you
Ew I actually cringed reading this
She texted her ex , and she was blocked lmaooo
Leave her immediately
You are never the 2nd option , king
Think of it objectively. If she doesn’t love you (or simply doesn’t love you that much) figure out how she actually benefits from the relationship. If it’s financial security and stability. Congratulations, you’re the safe option, not the attractive option.
You leave, thats what you do. Youre nearly 30 yrs old have some self respect.
Sorry man. This probably hurts quite a bit I assume.
You could start a conversation and let her know what you know but honestly it’s only to see her reaction.
She’s texted her ex, she herself wrote to a friend she doesn’t love you as much as her ex and the friend tells her you’re not right for her. Just ouch. Plus her bringing this up in fights with you is disgusting because it is designed to hurt. Really vile.
Don’t be the safe option or second choice.
You are a placeholder, keeping her warm and fed and company till Mr Right turns up