I’ve been with my husband for around 4 years and only been married to him for 4 months. I’m the only one working right now. We’re waiting for a work permit for him to be able to start working legally. I made reservations while I was at work to go eat BBQ together in the afternoon. I woke up at 4AM this morning to get to work at 5AM. I came home excited to go eat when I smelled cat pee on our bed. I had laid down on the bed for a minute and felt my clothes becoming wet. I had laid right on the pee spot where one of our cats had peed. He hadn’t made the bed so that was one of the reasons he didn’t notice the spot. But the room smelled bad as soon as I entered. I hate this marriage. I want to scream at him for being home all day and not having the common sense to let the cats out to pee. He didn’t clean anything all day. I don’t ask him for much, but if I have to go to work at 5AM Monday-Friday, I EXPECT him to clean up. I’m not talking to him right now because I’m just going to blow up in his face. All I wanted to do today was relax and enjoy a meal together, but there’s always something with him and I’m tired of it.
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And you married him because?
Girl exit stage left. Life is too short. Good luck.
Talk to him just like you wrote it here. You’re absolutely right about everything, and I can totally relate. If nothing changes after that, and you don’t have kids or financial obligation, make a clean break. Don’t betray him. End it properly.
Your husband sounds inconsiderate. Definitely leave him. He’s costing you more work and stress.
No wonder you’re happier alone.
You should run as fast as you can 😅
Life is too short to be miserable sleeping next to someone. Either confront him on his lack of consideration or continue to wallow in misery.
Cat peeing on your bed is not your husbands fault, that’s a cat issue, I can pretty much guarantee he wouldn’t have been able to clean it properly anyway because that ish just doesn’t come out of something like a mattress. Get the cat to a vet to rule out health issues.
If you feel this way after 4 months then its not going to get any better. He is not going to get any better. Just cut your losses and bail. Leave him with the cat piss sheets and go and live your best life
How have you been together 4 years and you’ve not noticed things like this?
Annul the marriage.