I (31F) am due to get married next year to my (32M) partner.
We are having the ceremony away from our local area and have invited our closest friends and family. There is around 30 people attending the ceremony which is way more than I initially wanted.
So, AITA for not inviting some of my family that I’m not close to (aunts, grandparents etc) to the ceremony? – I am inviting them to the reception on our return home.
I’m holding off sending invitations as I’m so worried I’m going to upset people and I HATE confrontation.
I know this is going to cause drama by not inviting them because they ALWAYS cause drama wherever they go.
But surely, this should be our choice and not theirs?
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I (31F) am due to get married next year to my (32M) partner.
We are having the ceremony away from our local area and have invited our closest friends and family. There is around 30 people attending the ceremony which is way more than I initially wanted.
So, AITA for not inviting some of my family that I’m not close to (aunts, grandparents etc) to the ceremony? – I am inviting them to the reception on our return home.
I’m holding off sending invitations as I’m so worried I’m going to upset people and I HATE confrontation.
I know this is going to cause drama by not inviting them because they ALWAYS cause drama wherever they go.
But surely, this should be our choice and not theirs?
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> 1. Not inviting family to my wedding
2. It could make me look like an asshole not inviting family as some people may think they should automatically be invited
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This is exactly what we did with our wedding, small ceremony with closest family and friends, then a separate, larger reception with extended family. It was the best thing!! Trust me when I tell you, our family and friends who weren’t invited to the ceremony did not mind one bit, and were just happy to be able to celebrate with us.
NTA. If they always cause drama, why would you want them at your actual ceremony? You’re not obligated to invite people just because they share your DNA
NTA. You want a small intimate ceremony. The only person’s opinion that matters (besides yours) is your fiancé. If people not invited have an issue, it’s not your problem.
NTA. Small weddings are a thing, you’re allowed to have them, whether it’s because of cost or not liking the attention. I’ve been to a wedding where there were like seven people.
NTA