Hi everyone. I’ll give a brief rundown I don’t wanna complain too much. I was a college student hybrid and I was homeschooled a good part of my life. The friends I made were through community homeschool events and I lost them through the years. I kind of got tired of being the only one to say something and it felt like not true friendships so now I’m alone these few years
The problem I’m running into is I don’t understand why I feel alone when I felt fine with this situation for about 4 years. I have the same amount of friends in my life but I felt content then. Sure I wanted more socialization, but things feel bleak now? I cling to everyone and try to understand why they’re fine but I am feeling this way. The only difference is I spend my days alone whereas i used to hang out with my homeschool friends years ago.. and then my cousins. But we’re not friends anymore, and cousins moved. So I’m alone.
The cousins moving is a more recent thing like this year. So I truly don’t have social interaction. I haven’t even made online friends! I also just overthink stuff. The prospect of making new friends is really interesting but I’m scared. I’ve had some clear issues with what I think is depression & maybe social anxiety? But deeply I wanna change. Right now my face feels really weird like in my sinuses. And idk what to do, because my doctor said it can be a dental thing. So I called the dentist but my heart was racing so much last night it stopped me from sleeping. again I don’t get why I feel alone because I’ve been fine before. Maybe it’s because my cousin isn’t nearby and we used to at least meet up a few times a week? It’s hitting me
(Idk how to tag this cuz it’s many topics sorry ab it)
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You’re going through a tough phase and need to initiate change. It’s not easy to motivate but finding something you enjoy, even alone, is key. If it involves some physical activity, that will help your mental health too. Hiking, swimming, dancing, running, biking, Pilates, tai chi, karate, soccer….. if that’s not your scene, walking around a museum or visiting a dog park maybe, taking a class or volunteering someplace that serves a need that matters to you… these things will help you get out of your own head a bit. Helping others or taking the time to give someone a compliment will help you focus energy outside yourself (which will feed your sense of community and belonging). Focus not on making friends but on enjoying yourself and doing things, which will put you in contact with people who have similar interests. This is how you make acquaintances and some will build into friendships.