Thankfully my ex and I lived in neighbouring cities, so I only saw him on weekends. The space definitely helped, but also.. I think I would have left sooner if I saw him more often. I would take it easy, I would spend a lot of time in bed lowering my cortisol levels.. spending time with my friends, who I was slowly starting to open up to about the state of my relationship. They helped me find the strength to finally leave.
Took care of myself just fine. Didn’t lower my standards so he would throw tantrums. Wouldn’t let him over when he was in a foul mood and wouldn’t go over to his place when he’s in a bad mood. It’s easy to let go when he never gave anything to want to hang onto.
Focused on my future. Didn’t share any information on my future plans and left an abusive situation as safely as I could with something else to look forward to.
Unfortunately, I lost myself in that relationship (I’m back now 😌), so it wasn’t as much as it could’ve been. I think the most I did was go for runs, which was still great! I just could’ve focused more on myself than I did. It was a lesson learned.
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I took care of myself physically, so at least I looked hot.
I got super into weight lifting and put on a good amount of muscle.
Thankfully my ex and I lived in neighbouring cities, so I only saw him on weekends. The space definitely helped, but also.. I think I would have left sooner if I saw him more often. I would take it easy, I would spend a lot of time in bed lowering my cortisol levels.. spending time with my friends, who I was slowly starting to open up to about the state of my relationship. They helped me find the strength to finally leave.
I’d just be delusional. It worked until it didn’t.
Took care of myself just fine. Didn’t lower my standards so he would throw tantrums. Wouldn’t let him over when he was in a foul mood and wouldn’t go over to his place when he’s in a bad mood. It’s easy to let go when he never gave anything to want to hang onto.
Focused on my future. Didn’t share any information on my future plans and left an abusive situation as safely as I could with something else to look forward to.
Unfortunately, I lost myself in that relationship (I’m back now 😌), so it wasn’t as much as it could’ve been. I think the most I did was go for runs, which was still great! I just could’ve focused more on myself than I did. It was a lesson learned.
I was never married in those so I just left.
Thankfully, waiting till later in life, I married my perfect man.
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