I’m 30. I was with someone from the time I was 22 until just after I turned 28, six years. We lived together for five of them. We talked about getting married, buying a house, kids, all of it. She was my best friend, the person I thought I’d grow old with. It was amazing.
We broke up two years ago. It wasn’t explosive. Just one of those slow-burn drift-apart situations. She said she felt like we were stuck, that we weren’t growing anymore. I wasn’t blindsided, but I definitely wasn’t ready for it either. I still loved her. I thought we just needed time or space to fix things.
Anyway, I moved out. We stayed in touch for a bit. Friendly, civil. Then less and less, until we basically didn’t talk at all. I’d still think about her, but I told myself it was normal… you know, six years is a long time. We had history. Sometimes I’d check her socials just to see how she was doing, but nothing obsessive.
A couple nights ago, I’m out with a few friends and one of them pulls me aside and goes, “Hey, did you hear about Anna? She’s engaged.” He showed me a photo someone sent him. There she is, holding a ring, smiling, next to a guy I’ve never seen before.
My stomach dropped. I know it’s been two years. I know she’s allowed to move on. I know technically it’s none of my business. But man… I just wasn’t expecting it to hit me like that.
We never talked about other people. We didn’t end in a screaming match or a betrayal. So I think somewhere in the back of my mind, I still thought we might circle back to each other someday. Stupid, I know. But I think a part of me never fully let go.
What hurts the most is knowing she found someone new, fell in love, and said yes to forever… all in less time than it’s taken me to even go on more than three dates with anyone.
I’m not angry. I don’t hate her. I want her to be happy. I really do.
But it’s weird realizing that someone you once loved more than anything is building a life with someone else.
And you’re just… not part of that world anymore.
Anyway. I’m not looking for advice. Just needed to say it somewhere. Thanks for reading.
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I’d be upset too and a bit petty tho. But that’s jist me. I hope yiu find yiur person too. Best of luck 👍
Better title “My ex of six years is engaged to someone else”
This title was all wrong 😂 I was ready to paragraph out. BuzzFeed ass title 😂
I cried when I found out my ex was engaged and had a new baby with his partner but we broke up because we weren’t right for each other and I wanted him to have that with someone.
We couldn’t give each other the life we wanted.
He got engaged and had a baby within two years of us breaking up, meanwhile 3 and a half years later I’m still single. I didn’t cry because I was sad, I cried because I’m happy for him but it was a reminder of my singledom and reminded me that I chose this and if I feel lonely now that’s for me to process.
Shes not your gf anymore, your title is a little clickbaity.
You were bf and gf for 6 years and never married. Thats the problem. Most women want that commitment and not be stuck in a relationship with no end. Relationship went stagnant. So its better to end it and let her move on
6 years too long for some.. They expect things beyond relationship – like marriage..
Probably your Ex was same.. You didn’t notice or didn’t care
It reads like she wanted commitment (an engagement, marriage) and you weren’t giving it to her. 6 years is a long time and she was in her mid-to-late 20s, she was ready to move forward, you saying you weren’t blind-sided tells us you were the problem here, you weren’t giving her what she was asking for.
Why wouldn’t you commit to her? 2 years later you’re still calling her “your girlfriend” and you’re upset she moved on… it’s your fault she left you. Lesson learned for you I guess.
Generally the woman leaves the relationship much earlier and the man doesn’t notice. It may or may not be that she already felt or had an emotional relationship with this guy, but that’s a maybe. You now have to focus on you more than ever. Go study, go to the gym and prioritize yourself. Don’t care about maybe, care about now and what you can become.
Tables will turn in a few decades. But by then she’ll be a distant memory.
She’s not your girlfriend bro. You lossed her, go to therapy , get over it
You moved out when she asked for commitment, you broke up that day, and that’s it
If you liked it then you should’ve put a ring on it
Eta: OPs post history is sus
OP is lying.
10 hours ago you posted that your wife died. Yesterday, you posted that your wife was cheating with your best friend. And most of the rest of your post are porn.
https://search.pullpush.io/?kind=submission&author=DangerousBrat&size=100
His whole account is full of bs
I really and truly can relate. I can only hope for you, that you too will find your forever someone.
Just go search for some more weird videos of women getting punched in the stomach, you’ll be okay