I have been a widow since 2012 and have handled all finances, checks and auto pay bills. We were married in 1983, my hubby handled everything until i found things not being paid, in arrears and all these accounts all screwed up. At that point, I took over all financial operations.
He had no interest in the family finances nor was he capable. As a kid, my Mom handled everything. Who handles things in your family? Are there separate accounts, joint accounts or do you work in tandem?