I (24f) and my husband (26m) just found out a few months ago we were pregnant with twins. We were happy as we had been trying for a couple years. But now I feel like I’m nothing but a burden to everyone around me, this is my first pregnancy so I’m constantly worried about what ifs. In my first trimester I was throwing up everyday, getting headaches, etc. now in my 2nd trimester I feel them more in my sides/rib area that has caused me severe pain. I’ve called out of work more times than I can say. They never get on to me when I call out and just tell me to feel better. I feel so bad everyday that I can’t just get up and go to work like everyone else and feel as though this is putting a strain between me and everyone. I love my babies and I’d never regret them, I just feel like I’m pathetic and weak. What should I do?
Feeling guilty about being pregnant
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You’re not weak at all, pregnancy is hard and twins make it even tougher on your body. The fact that you’re pushing through shows strength not weakness.
Give yourself grace, lean on the support you have and remember you’re literally growing two humans that’s a full time job in itself.
Honestly that’s just ur hormones messing up with u , since there definitely r hormone imbalances, try spending time reading books and embracing motherhood or maybe spend more time with ur loved ones. Happy journey <3
You’re not pathetic or weak, your body is not only growing a baby, but two babies!!! I only had one baby (now almost 11months old) & I was sick the entire time! They didn’t diagnose me with HG or anything but I was sick my entire pregnancy & could barely move or get up most days whether it be nausea & throwing up, side/rib pains, heartburn, constipation, the list goes on. I couldn’t work & although I’m grateful that boyfriend didn’t care if i worked or not, it definitely was hard on me! I’ve always worked and felt like I wasn’t contributing or just making things worse being a burden to him or my job or anything around me. It does suck but you’re not pathetic or weak! Every woman is different, every pregnancy is different, social media can also make it worse sadly. I was always comparing myself to other women who were able to work and who weren’t sick or in constant pain, it took me a while to realize everybody goes thru something different & handles it different. No matter how you handle things and go thru things, you’re doing good! Give yourself grace, I didn’t do that for a long time both during pregnancy & after, it didn’t help me. I’m constantly hard on myself & at a point I had to remind myself that I’m growing a human being & all I can focus on is trying to make sure I’m healthy for my baby & myself! I’m not sure if this helped, I’m not always great at communicating, but I want you to know you’re not alone in how you’re feeling both physically & mentally. You’re doing great mama!! 💗💗
Most people don’t carry two babies and from what I hear ones is hard enough as it is