I 18m moved away from my home to another city near my relatives to go to college this year i am doing my bachelors and i dont believe that im passionate about at all much like my subject in highschool (commerce) and feel very lost about which career to pursue, i spent all my day behind the screen waste my whole day on youtube and dont do anything i feel like a human equivilent of a pile of laundry.
i know that in the future i want to live my life in a english speaking country with better quality of life and safety ( something india, the country i live in lacks) and more importantly because i want to figure myself or be my true self for lack of a better word i am a guy and i always wanted to be more feminine and explore my gender expression paint my nails or try makeup etc , but i dont have the courage to do that here because i know i will be subjected shamed and ridicule.
also for some reason im starting to experience hair fall and my hairline has gotten wider which is making me very very insecure its been a week since i went to college because of it, i dont know how it started my relatives tell me it is because of the water here or something idk or that its because of too much stress which could be true, ive tried every oil that my family that my family recommended but nothing works i know this does not compare much to the stories here this feels like one of the worst times in my life
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Hey, it’s completely normal to feel lost at 18. Most people don’t have it all figured out, so don’t be too hard on yourself. Try small steps, explore hobbies, join clubs, talk to people online who understand you. About hair fall, stress really can make it worse, so focus on rest and healthy habits. And remember, wanting to express yourself doesn’t make you wrong, it just means you’re learning who you are. Hang in there, it won’t always feel this heavy.
You’re having a challenging situation as I was reading the post I was a little stressed for you. You’re overthinking in every part of your life. It is normal to experience stress and anxiety in your situation. Find a counselor or a therapist in the school who will help you.. Don’t make any hasty decisions under stress. . I know this is hard and challenging I wish you the best of luck.
I feel for you, and I’ve been where you’re at. Something to keep in mind is that literally everyone goes through what you’re going through. It’s a pretty natural, normal thing. Almost everyone switches majors in college. I think 18 is way too young for people to decide what they want to do for the rest of their life. My recommendation, if you can, is to just enjoy it – take a variety of classes and see what sparks your interest. Everyone at 18 feels like they need to rush to move to the next phase of life, but 18 is so young, and learning to take things slow and just enjoy it will be much more valuable in the long run than starting your career 6 months sooner.
As far as the hairline, that definitely stinks to go through at 18. I had a couple friends who started losing their hairline around then too. I can’t speak to any products or anything, but just a reminder that at the end of the day, looks truly don’t really matter. Confidence and being yourself are everything, and the right women will take a confident, kind, good guy over a pretty guy 10 times out of 10.
Just take life one day at a time, and eventually you’ll find yourself in a better spot. Late teens is a hard time sometimes – it’s a period with a ton of change (good and bad), and a lot of uncertainty and decisions before you. But it won’t last forever.
Hye, 21F here. I relate with your story so much. We also have the same problem of hairloss. Mine is the parting on my head got wider.
First of all, I want you to take a breath and lay down. You are doing fine. Everything, everything will be alright. I, myself am trying to figure it out. My cgpa are not as great as my friends and the work market for my field are very limited since Im a female. But I think, worrying about it and being burnt out about it does more harm than good. We will be fine, if youre not. We can always start over. Life has a funny way of working out.
For the hair loss. I am using nizoral shampoo and any conditioner (doesnt have to be expensive) I dont know if its working actually. But I do feel less insecure and thats enough for me <3
We got this, girly pop!