I’m a 38 (f) in 5 and half year relationship with 45 (m) . His ex wrote to me on Instagram talking about. He has been reaching out to her and sent me the messages. They read along the lines of. I miss you so much. It hurts. I never stop thinking about you. I want what I can’t have, and even though she gives him a cold shoulder answers, he continues to write to her the next day talking about good morning to which she also shut down and then reached out to me, sending me the messages. I know he’s going to say he hasn’t cheated because to him cheating his actual physical contact, but he does have a history of talking to women in the beginning of our relationship. I can’t confirm he slept with them, but I do have a mess that he kissed one of those girls. This is like the eighth instance.Would you break a six year relationship for your partner reaching out to ex telling them that they miss them?
He DM’d ex on instagram
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Yes, you should leave him because it’s a pattern, and people don’t change. I doubt he even understands how wrong his actions are. You should confront him, and unless he agrees to go to couples therapy with you and shows genuine remorse, you should leave him and find someone who truly appreciates you.
100%. Don’t waste ur time with a boy. Get yourself a real man that loves you and value you and doesn’t “miss” other women. He is extremely pathetic and needs to grow up honestly.
Yes.
Don’t think of it as a six year relationship. It is one-sided, so it’s half that, at best. He isn’t in it.
How much do you value your own sanity and peace of mind? Doesn’t seem like he cares. Why would you stay?
How many more times does he have to tell you he didn’t want you before you believe him? You stay THIS is why he does it he LITERALLY told a woman he misses her so much it hurts… you are talking about if someone would walk away when you are the only one in a relationship HE HAS LEFT LOOOOOGGGGGG AGO … make plans to leave go to the gym start working out work on yourself and LEAVE HIM!!! Before you catch something you can not cure!!!!!
I’m just the type to push through and work it out , and the graveling crying and promising to change our last problem was about two years ago , wanted to end things but he started the promises again therapy , share location, passwords ect so I gave it one more chance but now this. I feel the best way is to leave silently when he doesn’t expect cause I’m good person ( I guess can also mean weak) and the graveling is to pathetic I can’t stand it.
Yes! He’s going to cheat on you eventually if he has not already… He obviously can’t be trusted to think with the correct head
Save yourself the future pain and GTFO before things get worse