Hello,
Please stay with me… I am 15F ( yes ik we are yound but this isnt what this is about) and my bf (16M) have been together over 2 years now, we also recently went long distance in november. For context we have pretty much planned our lives together (highschool sweethearts please dont discourage us) we have planned marriage, career, kids, etc. He has made jokes about wanting to try some crazy drugs before, but tonight he shared that he genuinely wants to try one of every drug “to experience it” I explained to him how much this will effect pretty much every aspect of his life and is a quick road to addiction and much more and asked him if he could promise me he wouldn’t do this to himself, us, his family, his siblings, etc. and he pretty much said he cant promise anything. This is really throwing me off considering how focused I am on my future and how committed I am to keeping our relationship healthy and happy also to making sure he is healthy happy and supported. This really is not part of my moral set of values and Im not sure how to react or what to do.
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Youre going to change as you grow. Thats why high school relationships rarely last.
I’ve never understood the try every drug thing like yes your gonna have the best time of your life that’s literally what drugs are made for then what? You just never experience it again your gonna be craving it for a long time and most likely end up addicted to something do not be scared to break up with an idiot if he tries leading you down a self destructive path
I felt the same way at 16. I also went on to spend several years addicted to heroin and fentanyl. Tell him if he wants you in his life he better not fuck around with drugs.
That feels like a very teenager thing to want. I’m sure this is incredibly difficult for you and it’s hard knowing that this will not benefit him. I think your best bet is to make it clear that you don’t support him doing this, but you still want to know what’s going on. And I would encourage you to encourage him to do some research. Knowledge of the actual effects of these drugs is a great way to get turned off of them. He might still end up doing some drugs, but there are certain drugs that don’t carry the same risks the others do. Things like LSD, mushrooms, weed, etc, while not entirely risk free and not necessarily good for you by any means, do not carry the same addiction and harm risks things like cocaine does. And the best way to get turned off of cocaine is to read about what cocaine can do to you.
The more educated he can be, the better off he’ll be. You can’t necessarily stop him but you can try to convince him to make informed choices about what he puts in his body and follow safe practices
As someone who did alot of drugs in highschool. Leave him. You are only hurting yourself obviously you are going to care about him but if thats how he is thinking than id leave he’s not serious about your future or getting married if he’s risking overdosing and other stuff just for the feeling. Thats how we get single teen moms.
Don’t get pulled into his mess. Cut him loose. Tell him if he wants to be a loser and go that route your done. It’s not healthy. I mentioned it to his parents. He needs help
Definitely help steer him to be educated on the negative body and brain affects of drugs. The institute of human anatomy on YouTube has great videos describing how bad each drug is. And I hope your bf isn’t putting fentanyl for example on his list. You can OD on your first try, or get laced with something else and OD. Drugs aren’t legal. You don’t know what you’re taking or actually trying.
Thats a bit of a strange ambition. I’ve tried marijuana (many times) Magic Mushrooms (I grew my own) and Ecstacy (someone slipped it to me, and I didn’t know what it was – terrible drug)
I’ve never wanted to try cocaine, morpheine, or Krokodil. I’m happy with a few beers over the weekend, and my wife is a near teetotaler. I have marijuana in a spray container which lets me take it when I want, and thats as far as I go.
Your body, your choice. Like I said, my wife is about as straight edged as you can get. We have been married longer than you two have been dating. The secret is, I respect her space, and she respects mine. We’d both order a beer in a restaurant, and I’d finish mine, while she had like 3 sips, and asked me to finish hers. But if you notice, I respected her choice. I didn’t force her to drink, and I happily let her do what she wanted.
Thats called respect. He’s showing he doesn’t respect you. That attitude has to change fast, or your high school sweetheart will be nothing but a memory.
Also trying drugs is not the same as doing drugs. I tried Estacy, and honestly, it just felt like my brain had been partially shut down. Thats why you see people on it just grooving to the music, and saying “Its all good” – because their higher brain functions are off. Now, as someone who enjoys numbing my brain with alcohol, I understand the attraction. Not worrying about work, school, life in general IS attractive. I just couldn’t stand it, and I was so grateful when it wore off. Maybe you two should discuss a “panic protocol” because its impossible to say how a drug will react with you until you try it. And if both of you are high, a bad trip can ruin your day, week, etc.
You’re too young to get involved with someone so clearly reckless. You’ll recognize it either once you see him throw his life away or the both of yours.
I didn’t feel that way at 15 or 16. I have smoked Marijuana for 20 years, pretty much. That is the one consistent drug use. I have done both powder and crack cocaine, heroin, meth, suboxone, ecstasy, molly, acid, shrooms, spice, nitrous, pain killers, Xanax, and somas off the top of my head. And alcohol of course. I am 35 and have a successful career in the finance industry, and I have a happy family with 3 kids now…. Apparently, I am just capable of dabbling in hardcore partying and not spiraling out of control… I have gained a lot of life experience and have no regrets.
I hate to sound like a wuss, but some drugs (not w33d tho) are actually, GENUINELY a gateway drug with absolutely no control over.
I was strict about drugs at first, as in, didn’t associate with people that did them, and didn’t do them myself. Then I started associating myself with them but still being like “never me tho”…THENNNN i started smoking myself. And for the longest time and even now, I refuse to do anything more than w33d because w33d works, is cheap, and isn’t dangerous.
That was until i tried c0ke…I’ve always been extremely disciplined with myself about drugs and alcohol. Which ive stuck to and am so proud of myself for. Literally anything that was addictive, I am completely able to just quit free will. I tried vaping as a kid but got annoyed at the expense and just felt like it was boring so i stopped lol…Same with drinking. It was getting expensive so I said “whatever i just won’t anymore until later lol.” So I thought just trying it, (given my specific situation) wouldn’t hurt cuz I could just, stop if i wanted.
I tried it, liked it…but not enough to continue. Then the chance for more came up, i thought “well i’ve done it once and it was fine, i’ll do it again. but not regularly.” And then after that, all I want is more. and more. and more. I do it pretty regularly honestly and that’s not good. Granted i’m pretty strict and as responsible as i can be with it, but still. Wanting more and more and more will eventually escalate into it not working the same but still needing more. To then my rotten brain convinces me that trying crck is okay, or m3th or fnt…Whatever. The same will happen to him.
Well, tell him to plan his funeral first because too many kids in my area are dead because the drug they took had to much fentanyl laced in them.
Dump him. You might think you’re letting him down, but you can’t save someone like this. He’s only going to bring you down with him.
Nope. Just nope. Some drugs can kill or or addict you tight off the bat
Sweetheart, you have absolutely no reason to ruin your life and break your heart over a boy dumb enough to want something like this.
People who are attracted to drugs will never love you, they will only ever see you as an obstacle between them and the object of their addiction. My ex-husband is an alcoholic cocaine addict, so I know what I’m talking about.
Please focus on your school and stay away from him ♥️
Tell him that you believe in him and you’re sure he can come up with some better life goals than that. That’s Russian roulette, is what that is. Not clever.
I do understand wanting new experiences at that age, but I would recommend avoiding drugs that create chemical dependency as this just isn’t a risk worth taking. That includes over-the-counter stuff like kratom, btw. Avoid that stuff like the plague.
As you work your way to adulthood things come along that are deal breakers.
Compromising your values doesn’t sound like the path you want to be on.
Kick his ass to the curb now. Don’t second guess it and don’t look back. He’ll fvck his life up, and take you down that worthless road with him.
Well as soon as you find out he did might as well end the relationship. This sounds harsh but if he doesn’t listen and goes through with it. He will become addicted to one and take him to the wrong path. You are too young to deal with an addict