So let me clear the title.
I met my now ex about a year ago. When we first got together together, she had this friend, let’s call him Josh.
Now, at that point in time, I figured Josh was just a friend she had, which is somewhat true.
What I found out recently is that she was dating Josh while dating me. I didn’t like that, but the kicker? It turns out my now ex wanted something long-term with Josh, but Josh didn’t, so she chose me and never told me this.
After finding out, I broke up with her. She told me she’s sorry she never told me and that she’s glad she’s not with Josh, but honestly, I have never felt more like a second choice in my life, because that’s exactly what I am.
Hearing my now ex cry did make me feel guilty, though, so that’s why I’m posting this here.
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NTA – if you don’t want to be second fiddle, the tears of your ex should not sway you to accepting that role
HAHAHHAH good. Bro if you think you’re in the wrong you’re clearly high off something
NTA. There is always someone waiting in the dugout.
If Josh hadn’t dumped her, she would still be with him. Guaranteed.
She’s not crying for hurting you.
She’s crying because she got caught being a jackass.
No one wants to be the stand in
Damn, if she was glad she wasn’t with Josh, then Josh would have no longer been around.
You weren’t even second place. You were a placeholder.
NTA, and thank whoever filled you in.
Ntah. She lied. How could you trust her. For all you know they could be meeting up behind your back. Nah. Screw her. She kinda got what she deserves.
Tears are weapons for women brother. Keep in mind that almost every woman can make herself cry any time she wants. Either way bro. You did the right thing. You have self respect. Ggs
Create a fake email pretending to be Josh and ask her out as Josh to see if she still wants him or if she’s fallen for you and over him. Don’t be too charming because that could bring out parts of both of your personalities that the other has never seen and you may fall in love as these other people. That’s where things get complicated, does she still have feelings for Josh or is it your new found confidence and online charm that she’s now fallen for? Maybe if you’d acted like this fake online personality you’ve developed in the first place we wouldn’t be in this mess
You did the right thing! If or when Josh decides he wants a serious relationship you would be yesterday’s new. Pretty shitty of her to be dating you both without telling you in the first place.
YTA for making me read such poor creative writing.
NTA. I love when people stand on business.
Ignore most of the suggestions on here! There’s only ONE perfect solution: Get your ass in gear and go see Josh! Tell him that he’s the one you truly love – hell, maybe even blow him – and get married and live happily ever after!
Yta for the fake post.
NTA OP and Josh are similar in so many ways. Both dated the same girl at the same time. Both decided she wasn’t the one for them.
Respect yourself… she for the streets
NTA
She’s only crying g because she’s trying to keep you around as an option…..again. Block her on everything and move on. She ain’t the one
If she choses him now, its only going to get worse.
There is equilateral in any dynamic.
Make sure you stand for yours.
How would that even come out? That’s crazy.
Nta
Honestly sometimes it’s better to feel alone than to feel second fiddle. And her crying is just regret she got caught, fuck her and enjoy life without a piece of crap like that.
Nah, fuck her. get tested, if she calls you crying just straight up call her a cheating ho who you could never be with and Josh also understand she’s a tramp and not who she wants to be with, quit the crocodile tears and go find some new people to cheat on.