Throwaway bc yeah
OKAY SO I’m f17 and this boy is m18. I’ve know him since I was 14 and he was 16 (birthdays are a little weird)
Just so no one comes for me or him, we’re in Texas. Age of consent is infact 17.
Anyway, so our relationship has been VERY on and off. We’ve never had a bad break off but we’ve never really been official either.
He knows (or should know) I’m a relationship oriented person and want a serious relationship even at my age. He on the other hand thinks with his head (not the one on his shoulders) and from as far back as I can remember he’s been very sexual but never physically.
Now I’m a senior and the age of consent. He’s getting into the swing of a new job and we’re planning on meeting up in a few weeks. Yes we have planned to have sex. Just getting that out there. We have both agreed to use protection (condoms and he’s buying me a plan b).
We were talking tonight about that kinda stuff and I asked ‘since we’re on these topics, can I ask what kinda relationship you want rn?’. And he said “oh idk tbh :>”. Im not a teenage boy and I have no clue what he wants. He calls me baby and flatters me and every chance, completely unprovoked but when I ask about a relationship he skirts around it.
I dont really have a problem with causal sex atm it just I wish he would tell me what he wants before I get attached yk. I cant lie it hurt a bit when he said that but I wasn’t expecting anything else really.
Other things to add: I’m not a virgin and he knows that, neither is he, he’s also openly admitting to me that he’s cheated on girlfriends. In fact we were calling and he was just telling me about all his experiences and when he asked about me (he already knew) I made it clear that its not something I wanna talk to him about, not bc of comfort but because I didnt want to talk about past partners out of respect yk? Idk
This was just a bunch of word vomit I’m sorry. I’m just a little confused about what to think or expect.
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He clearly doesn’t want one, or you two would be proper together by now.
“Doesn’t know” means “no”, by all intent and purposes.
If someone says “I don’t know” when you ask for clarity, that’s already an answer, he’s not ready, and you deserve someone who is. Don’t gamble your heart on mixed signals and flattery; protect your peace before your feelings become collateral damage.
he’s so not the one
He’s been stringing you along for 20% of your life.
If he wanted to be with you, he would be. The fact that he “doesn’t know” means you’re a placeholder until he finds someone he “does know” with.
Please stop allowing people to treat you this way.
Former teenage boy here (I’m 26) he wants to fuck and move on, or just fuck you till he finds someone “compatible” in his eyes.
Trust me? I’d pass on him and just wait for someone who actually wants to be with you. Actually a lot of guys out there who prefer girls who wait believe it or not.
Yeah, it really doesn’t sound like he wants a relationship.
And being honest, that’s for the better. He admitted to YOU that he’s cheated on multiple girlfriends before. Do you really want to be the next? Because it’s unlikely the cheating would stop.
Tell him
He sounds like he just wants sex. I wouldn’t trust a man who cheats personally. If he cheats on others he will cheat on you. You aren’t special in that regard