I’m 17m and every time I jerk off my mom seems to always knock on my door 5 or so minutes later while I’m still either a mess or cleaning up and when she knocks i know she wants to come in so i tell her to wait while i clean up or gather clothes but i feel like she knows what I’m doing and i feel awkward i could take today as an example its 12:50 A.M and my mom has to work the next morning so i thought she was sleeping and i decide that now would be the best time but after i finished a few minutes later she was right at my door knocking i told her to wait while i was panicking to clean up and at least cover myself when i cleaned up i rushed under my covers and pretended to play a game of my phone telling her she could come in she softly swung open the door and asked what i was doing and i said “nothing” she then repeated herself and i doubled down then she entered needing to grab the scissors and then asked what was wrong i again said “nothing” and then she left right now i feel a flurry of mixed emotions about it but I’m in my room and i wait all day and most of the night that way I’m not imposing on anyone if i were needed throughout the day but even waiting till almost 1 in the morning doesn’t seem to do anything and i just don’t know what to do anymore.
My mom seems to knock on my door after jerking off what do I do.
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Do it in the bathroom.
This is obviously an invasion of privacy on her part. But how is it possible that she knows you’re awake? Or masturbating? You must be much louder than you think.
It sounds like maybe she is hearing you and doesn’t know how (or is unwilling) to accept that her baby is growing up and is doing what normal teenagers do in the “privacy” of their own room.
It’s not mum-radar, mate — you’re just rattling the pipes like a dodgy Pornhub ad and breathing like Darth Vader at Comic Con. Grab headphones, lock the door, maybe relocate to the bathroom. Stop treating your room like it’s a nightclub at 1am. Unless you’re into the thrill of getting caught… in which case, therapy.
Look, jokes aside, everyone does it. Nothing weird about that. You just need to up your stealth game a bit — headphones, door locked, bathroom if you want real privacy. The awkwardness fades once you stop overthinking it
It doesn’t matter.
Chad move here – not adviced:
« yeah, just come in » and just continue beat it while make eye contact of superior being.
« What’s up? »
Maybe she wants to watch.
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Not the same really but my mother would get into the bathroom (to pick up a basket of laundry or start a wash cycle—our washing machine was in the bathroom) two minutes after I went in to do my skincare or anything. She was invading my privacy but I’m not sure she was aware of it. However that was 100% something she did as a reaction to me. I think it was a power move. Your mother might be doing the same thing. How does she know? Your chair, your bed or whatever is moving and giving it away. Learn to do it more discreetly. Or just do it and next time she shows up, go feral and say I WAS TOUCHING MYSELF MOM lol.
Next time she asks you what you’re doing, tell her, “minding my business, and you should too”.
Work on doing it a little less loud. Play some music, TV, Computer game.
Lock the door
They know. They’ve always known
any chance your parents set up some stuff that can monitor internet activity ? i heard this can be set up at the firewall level to log what sites are being accessed. afterall you are underaged and living at home so. maybe you need to start using a vpn or tor browser, but you didnt hear that from me 😂
Have you considered talking to her about what’s happening and telling her what you’ve said here, that every time you finish she knocks on the door? You’re allowed to hold her accountable here too.
I think that comments suggesting your mum knows you’re masturbating and is deliberately perving on you are being quite presumptuous.
I think you might be making some sort of noise during your masturbation or cleanup that makes your mum realise you’re awake and moving around, but not necessarily that you’re masturbating – so she decides that she may as well come and talk to you about that thing she was going to leave until tomorrow or come and make you aware she knows you’re awake, to discourage you from staying up all night.
I suggest you take care of if you’re shaking things loudly (if you’re wearing headphones you’ll be less aware of the noise you’re making), and set things up in advance to minimise moving round to clean up – wipes/tissues on the nightstand and bin next to your bed.
When you were a child… she would ask you what your doing and when you said nothing and it was true..she would know
When you lied..she would know.. by your vocal tones,facial expressions and body language
When you got older that becomes difficult because your teaching yourself things…
Maybe your being louder than you realise but then again if that beds creaking then she already knows..
On the other hand maybe she knows nothing.. if she’s a single mum maybe she feels lonely and that’s her chance to have one last bit of conversation before it’s time to sleep
maybe talk to her.. mum when I go to bed.. I’m trying to sleep and when you come in to get scissors.. check I’m still breathing or whatever thing you need to do at 1 in the morning your preventing me from doing that
If you struggle to talk maybe write her a letter where you can’t be interrupted.. it would give you time to think and word things properly
Punctuation is way cooler than you give it credit for
dude this is definitely a noise thing – you’re probably way louder than you realize. beds creak, floors make noise, whatever. try putting on some background noise like music or a tv show to cover any sounds, and maybe prep everything beforehand so theres less moving around after. also the bathroom idea isnt bad if you want real privacy.
the timing thing your doing doesnt really matter if she can still hear movement/sounds. she might not even know exactly what your doing but just knows your awake and figures its a good time to check on you or grab something she needs
Use the bathroom dude
If she does it every time, it’s not an accident. She knows and wants to intimidate you/ make you uncomfortable to not do it. Whatever twisted logic it is. As many said, this is likely a mother not coping well that her son is growing up and have sexual urges.
I would just be honest and say I’m 17 I’m masterbating and need privacy and would appreciate it if she doesn’t try to come in late at night.
I would follow up with if I’m being too loud I’ll be more quiet sorry.
If it’s what I think in the first paragraph she’ll likely be embarrassed and not bother you again at night.
Masterbation should not be part of your life bro, you may not be a Christian but know that there’s a Higher being who created you and His name is God. Bro jerking off is a total sin and you should be very careful from now onwards. Read (ROMANS 6:23)
I mean let her see the aftermath she will be so embarrassed and not do it again is she tracking your internet use or are you loud either way embarrass both of you it’ll stop
He needs to check his room for cameras and be quieter