Location: Arizona.
Here’s my situation: found out I am married to a covert narcissist and I want out. I have a 20month old and he watches her for about 3-4 hours a day, I watch her the rest of the time since my work from home is flexible . He has been verbally and emotionally abusive and has punched a wall. I have it documented in therapy notes. He yelled “fuck” and threw something when he was watching the baby and I asked him to leave after that.
My therapist has asked me to file an order of protection because he has guns but I fear retaliation in the sense of him coming after our child for custody. He also smokes weed and has abused his prescription stimulant. He is now off the abused stimulant. When I asked him to leave he went an hour and a half from the child to make it difficult on me, even though he has parents 8 minutes away.
He makes zero income, used to run a business but he ran it into the ground and refuses to get any work outside of that. How do I go about this strategically with the least amount of collateral damage? I would like to not have shared custody and would be okay with him watching our daughter with supervision by his family.
Can he take alimony from me if I can prove he hasn’t tried or applied for a job and refused to allow me to get a babysitter for childcare (have this in therapy notes).
I am dealing with a family of narcissists and they are extremely dangerous, please be kind and any help would be so appreciated.