So I’m on vacation with my girlfriend right now and I picked up a bundle of towels and accidentally dropped my room key onto the ground. She goes, “why did that happen!!” And i just respond with “I don’t know I’m sorry” and she explodes “you know how mhch that triggers me and you say it all the time” its like if I told you to kill yourself everyday” which is something that immensely triggers me and spirals me into a dark place. And I do know it triggers her but its a really ingrained habit for when something happens and I need to take a second to figure out how it happened. Hearing that really hurt me and I don’t know what to do
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You gotta be able to talk to your partner. If not, there’s no point. She sounds a little loony, but I’ll give her the benfit of the doubt lol. Talk to her, ask her why this is triggering. Find a solution. Tell her what she said hurt you and try to find a solution.
If you can’t trust and respect your partner then any love to be had between you will be fleeting at best. Horrific at worst.
She explodes because you say you don’t know? And you say you are sorry?? What the hell is “triggering” for her about you saying you don’t know?
This is nuts, OP. Her reaction to a normal comment is off the wall. Never tolerate someone exploding at you regularly.
Your gf sounds abusive, exhausting, and like she is a pretty shitty excuse for a gf. What do you get out of this relationship other than being yelled at?
Dang, that sounds rough i get why she’s sensitive about certain things but dropping a key and saying I dont know sorry is so normal you shouldn’t have to feel like you’re being attacked for a tiny accident hope you two can talk it out calmly
That’s a little peculiar. Maybe switch it up and say, I guess that’s the way the universe operates.
This will happen over and over again. Do you want to live like this? I’d suggest therapy for her.
She’s abusive.
You break up with this abusive girlfriend.
I’m so confused. What exactly triggered her and why?
Remain calm until you get home from vacation and then end this.
I picked up a bundle of towels and accidentally dropped my room key onto the ground. She goes, “why did that happen!!”
Did she have an abusive past with one of her parents as a child?
sounds like she’s aware that she’s kinda mean to you or aggressive/abrasive with you, insecure about it but also won’t take accountability. so when she blows up on you over something small & you cower like “i don’t know i’m sorry” it shows her that she is the crazy one picking on someone who is nice. she’s basically mad at you for not being mean to her back and your “sorry” reaction makes her feel bad about herself. but instead of realizing that about herself she puts it back on you. projecting.