I’m really struggling right now in getting to know this young lady. She’s so sweet and super kind but I just don’t feel like she’s putting in as much effort as I am. I’m a freshman in college but playing football and she’s a jr. We’ve both had our fair share of tough relationships hers was getting ghosted cheated on and stuff while for me it was just messy ending and a lot of hurt from staying too invested for too long.
I’ve been talking with her for two weeks and I’ve been trying to plan a real date but it seems like she always has something coming up. Frankly it’s all valid reasons like friends birthdays and stuff but I just don’t think her and I have the same idea of what we want this to be. The only thing she has on me is age, other than that I’m pretty much surpassing her in every aspect. I just wanna know what’s best to do? Preferably I’d like to hear from a girl, I can share some more info too
Apparently I need to write more for this so I’ll just give more info. I’m really really afraid of getting hurt again and I don’t want to get attached to fast, she says she has trust issues but honestly it just doesn’t feel like she cares to make time. I’ll use tonight as an example, she said she was going to do something so we couldn’t get ice cream. Literally just the simplest thing in the world. I asked her that at 4 and she didn’t end up leaving her house till 8:30. So I was just flat out pissed after that.
Tl;dr
Really struggling with big feeling like she wants this as much as I do