I am 100% heterosexual. My ex-wife was bi-curious and tried it before she met me. I found that she was never able to see things from her husband’s perspective and would try to manipulate him to get her way (more of a narcissistic trait). Funny thing: her brother was also, got divorced from his wife, and married a man. That didn’t last either.
For men who have been in a relationship with a woman who is bi-curious (If its a woman who has been with a bi-curious man that’s part of the topic too) how did the relationship work out?
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I’ve only ever dated bi girls but if I don’t also get to fuck other women then it’s cheating and we’re done.
It became a bit of a source of friction that our taste in other women didn’t have that much overlap and that I was not OK with her going outside of the relationship to experiment with other women and she was not OK with me having sex with the other woman if we did have a threesome with one.
Ultimately, the relationship ended about a year later for unrelated reasons.
We’e been together 26 years.
But no, it’s not as fun as you think. She doesn’t act on it now that we have kids.
Been together 20 years. She still kinda wanted to be with women for a few years but I told her if she gets to sleep with a woman, so do I. Even if it’s with her same sex, it’s still cheating. After we settled down she lost the urge.
I am just thinking that the dynamics of the relationship changes and that a bi-curious person doesn’t really know how to deal with a heterosexual partner. I know its not easy to know what a heterosexual person of the opposite sex is thinking / feeling, but a M or F heterosexual person who is into the opposite sex, will make more attempts to make the heterosexual relationship work, other than thinking that things will work out better with their own gender.
We had an open relationship for other reasons. She went on one date with another woman and, from what I gather, didn’t click with her and didn’t have sex with her. The relationship ended amicably, again for other reasons.
I had a discussion with a woman who pointed out that having sex with another woman is not gay, if they are both into men. She seem surprised when I said that makes them bi.
I guess lust or being drunk trumps knowledge of who we are.
Still married.
I’m bi, my ex was bi, it didn’t lead to anything but it was really nice to not have to worry about judgement or anything, we could just talk about people we found hot on the rare occasions it came up. She was happy I could appreciate men, I was happy she could appreciate women, it was smooth sailing in that department.
At least three of the women I’ve dated were bi, that i know of. They all ended, but none of it had to do with their sexuality.
It can be a lot of fun, but both parties have to be secure in the relationship and have a nonchalant attitude of sharing a partner. I’ve never known it to last, though, as someone always gets jealous of the level of attention given to one person or the other.
This is an interesting topic, although I find a lot of comments about it to be kinda garbage.
Anyways, to answer your actual question, and not get into the rest of it-
My wife and I have been together for 18yrs. She is definitely bi-curious, but has never “acted” on it. we have talked about it quite a few times over the years, and I would be ok with her being with a woman, but I would want to be involved. We have even talked about it with specific women we know. Nothing has ever happened, really because the amount of things that would have to be “right” is so much that it’s almost impossible. The closest we’ve come is a coworker that was definitely into my wife, my wife was definitely into her, and I would have been down to do whatever with. From what I know, I think we would have all gotten along in much more than sexual ways too. But this woman had a fiancé, and none of us were going to do anything to disrespect that situation.
The funniest thing I have thought about the whole thing is how my wife’s attraction to women is so much more specific than mine. Like I think my wife’s finds maybe 2% of women “fuckable/attrative/hot” and I’m at more like 25%.
It worked pretty much the same as my relationships with completely heterosexual women.
Whether someone is straight or bi IMO isn’t really an issue. The issue comes if they’re not very monogamous.
Whomp whomp divorce
My wife is heterofelxible (her term). She enjoys MFF threesomes but doesn’t enjoy FF sex. We ocassionally play with other women we meet. However, it’s not easy meeting women who are into both of us.
Fortunately sex work is completely legal where we work. We know some escorts who provide a truly excellent service for couples. Fun times.
I’ve mostly dated bi women. Straight women tend to have big ideas alt how men are supposed to be & I don’t want to deal with it.
My wife is bi and never had chance to experiment when she was younger. I encouraged her to try, didnt want her getting old and regretting not having the chance.
She has had a gf for a year, who is awesome and shocking similar to me personality wise. They mostly have a separate relationship but the three of us do have fun together every so often.
Been with a girl like this before but didn’t know she was bi curious. Thought she was straight. We didn’t live together so we tried talking to each other on the phone as much as we could even though we went to the same school. We were already in a relationship for a good 3 months until she started talking about how other girls looked to her in inappropriate ways. What led up to our breakup was she invited some her friends over who were all girls 1 I knew for sure was bisexual and at one point kissed her. Not sure who it was but she was guilty and told me immediately after it happened and then claimed to be fully bisexual after that which I didnt believe. I honestly thought she was lesbian as I felt she only said that because she was with me a straight guy and she had just kissed a girl. Broke up with her on the spot
Plot twist: it usually works out for her… just not with you.
I dated a girl who was bi. At the time it was awesome, lots of threesomes. Unfortunately it ended in her cheating (with another guy)