I have always been the quiet type. I don’t think I see myself with a partner because I’m not funny, I can talk about much to teach someone something, I’m not interesting, I don’t express myself much. I’ve gamed my whole life and i always chose to do that over socializing and now that I’ve grown out of gaming my social skills sucks. I can still make decent friends, I notice i get womans attention. I hesitate to speak most times and have anxiety around people. I try to have patience with myself and it is so frustrating because I let opportunities pass or im not socially capable. I do spend time at the flea market with my brother selling boots so I can be comfortable around people and I go to the gym. But like I said I just dont see the point of pursuing a relationship when I can’t even talk about anything interesting or funny. I can’t live like this. What’s also frustrating is that, what’s the point of being handsome if I suck at socializing. Ill try my hardest to get through this
How do I become more talkative?
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I have always been the quiet type. I don’t think I see myself with a partner because I’m not funny, I can talk about much to teach someone something, I’m not interesting, I don’t express myself much. I’ve gamed my whole life and i always chose to do that over socializing and now that I’ve grown out of gaming my social skills sucks. I can still make decent friends, I notice i get womans attention. I hesitate to speak most times and have anxiety around people. I try to have patience with myself and it is so frustrating because I let opportunities pass or im not socially capable. I do spend time at the flea market with my brother selling boots so I can be comfortable around people and I go to the gym. But like I said I just dont see the point of pursuing a relationship when I can’t even talk about anything interesting or funny. I can’t live like this
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Learn to tell good stories. Know more about history, art, culture and literature. Recite and remember famous poems. Ask questions of people. Interesting questions. What’s your favorite dinosaur? What was a struggle in your life and what did you do to get out of it?…….be a journalist of sorts. Be curious. Out loud.
I was like that when I was young. Then I made a bunch of friends in college and came out of my shell. You just need to be comfortable with who you’re talking to and the conversation will flow naturally.
In general,start small. You don’t need to suddenly become the life of the party. Try just tossing in little comments here and there. Like, if someone’s talking about a movie, jump in with Oh yeah, I saw that, wasn’t the ending kinda wild? Stuff like that. Doesn’t have to be deep.
don’t try to be funny–be you
the right gal will be into you as you–not wearing some fake clown mask
would you want to get a woman pretending to be some witty funny guy? what do you do after that–wear the mask for life?
You can start here
Start by not telling women you’re ‘not funny or interesting.’ Confidence is hotter than a TED Talk about your insecurities.
You dont need to be talkative since you cant. But you can learn how to communicate, its easy