| [20F] offered to give my boyfriend [19M] a blowjob earlier in the day, and at the time he didn’t seem opposed. Later on, though, he said he was going to take a nap. In the evening, when I brought it up again and mentioned that I had been looking forward to being intimate, he responded that he had football practice in about an hour, so he was going to sleep instead. Now I’m wondering if I should be reading into this or if I’m just overthinking the situation. We’ve been dating for about five months, and things are generally good between us. This was one of the first times where I felt like he brushed me off when I was initiating something.
On one hand, I know he could genuinely have been tired or just wanted to be well-
rested before practice, which makes sense.
TL;DR-Offered my bf [19M] a bj, later he chose to nap before football instead. We’ve been together 5 months
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Do you really never feel like you’re just not in the mood?
Yeah it means he wanted a nap
Look, I know that women generally are of an opinion that men cannot think of anything else than sex, but yes, we also can be tired from time to time. Don’t overthink it.
It means that he didn’t want a blowjob before soccer practice, he wanted to sleep instead.
Your sexual desires won’t always line up. If it becomes a pattern of avoidance it might be something but not wanting to receive oral is not intrinsically indicative of anything
could be porn use/masturbation in the morning so his drive is down throughout the day. or lack of sleep lowering his overall testosterone and sex drive. sleep is a huge factor is testosterone production, and lack of it will lower T and lower sex drive.
if this is a regular occurance of course, if its just a one time thing he was probably tired.
Have you always said yes every time he instigates?