I’ve been close with someone for years and really value her as a friend. For context, we were both single for a long time, and about a year ago she got into a relationship. I don’t know her boyfriend very well, but I was so happy and supportive of her as he seems great and our friendship didn’t change at all.
About 6 months ago, I also got into a relationship (it’s going really well). But almost immediately, I’ve noticed a big shift in our friendship. It seems to be me always reaching out with very short responses & she’s been unusually flaky with plans. She doesn’t ask how I’m doing & also never asks about how things are going with him, which feels odd, because when she first started dating her bf we always talked about that kind of thing — especially since we were single girls together for so long!!
I’ve made a lot of effort to reach out and even asked directly if something was wrong. She reassured me everything was fine & that she’s just been busy but the vibe feels off. She doesn’t know my boyfriend, so it’s not about her disapproving of him or anything like that. She seemed so happy for me when I first told her.
Part of me wonders if it’s nothing, and maybe she’s just going through something she doesn’t feel like talking about. I’ve decided to take a step back & allow her to reach out when she wants to. Has anyone else gone through something similar with a close friend? How did you handle it?
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Weird energy. Some people would prefer you being single, or it’s likely things are not going well on her end with her partner. So she won’t want to engage in anything that could trigger negative emotions.