AITA for starting an 0nlyFans even though my family found out and freaked?

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I’m 19F, a college freshman, and I’ve been struggling financially ever since I moved out. I was juggling classes and a part-time retail job, but between rent, books, and just trying to eat, it honestly wasn’t cutting it. I was constantly stressed and falling behind on bills.

So a few months ago, I made an OnlyFans. Nothing wild – mostly flirty photos, lingerie, and some suggestive stuff, but nothing extreme. To my surprise, it actually helped a lot. For the first time in forever, I wasn’t panicking about money every week.

The problem is, my family is very conservative and judgmental about… well, basically everything. I never planned on telling them, because I knew it would blow up. But recently, my uncle apparently stumbled across it (no clue why he was even on there…) and now word has spread.

My aunt called me screaming, saying I was “throwing my life away” and that I’m bringing shame on the family. My dad barely talks to me now, and my older brother sent me a long text about how I’m “embarrassing everyone.” I tried explaining that I’m safe, independent, and not asking anyone for help – but they don’t want to listen.

To them, it’s simple: I’m either a “god girl” or I’m not.

Now they’re all saying I betrayed their values and that I should delete everything immediately. But I honestly don’t feel like I’m doing anything wrong. I just wanted to survive on my own terms.

So… AITA for starting an OnlyFans when I knew my family would hate it?

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    I’m 19F, a college freshman, and I’ve been struggling financially ever since I moved out. I was juggling classes and a part-time retail job, but between rent, books, and just trying to eat, it honestly wasn’t cutting it. I was constantly stressed and falling behind on bills.

    So a few months ago, I made an OnlyFans. Nothing wild – mostly flirty photos, lingerie, and some suggestive stuff, but nothing extreme. To my surprise, it actually helped a lot. For the first time in forever, I wasn’t panicking about money every week.

    The problem is, my family is very conservative and judgmental about… well, basically everything. I never planned on telling them, because I knew it would blow up. But recently, my uncle apparently stumbled across it (no clue why he was even on there…) and now word has spread.

    My aunt called me screaming, saying I was “throwing my life away” and that I’m bringing shame on the family. My dad barely talks to me now, and my older brother sent me a long text about how I’m “embarrassing everyone.” I tried explaining that I’m safe, independent, and not asking anyone for help – but they don’t want to listen.

    To them, it’s simple: I’m either a “god girl” or I’m not.

    Now they’re all saying I betrayed their values and that I should delete everything immediately. But I honestly don’t feel like I’m doing anything wrong. I just wanted to survive on my own terms.

    So… AITA for starting an OnlyFans when I knew my family would hate it?

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    > 1. I was starting an OF and keeping it a secret

    1. It might make me the ahole cause, I knew my family would see it as shameful and against their values

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  3. NAparentheses Avatar

    NTA They can provide financial support for you with no strings attached or shut their mouth. And the hypocrisy of your uncle being in there and criticizing you…

  4. GollumTrees Avatar

    NTA I’ve done the same line of work and it saved me from losing my house after I became disabled. Maybe ask your family what kind of fun stuff unc is watching on OnlyFans?