i’m 17f and my sister is 25f, she lives in a different continent on the whole other side of the world, but the whole family travelled abroad so my mum could get married there was about 42 of us in the group, towards the end of the two weeks my stepbrother 23, groped my sister, told her “u know u liked it” and “i see the way u look at me” after she said get off, she couldn’t even tell my mum the next day because it was my mums birthday, when we did tell my parents day after getting back, he received almost no consequences, still lives with me, my mum, stepdad, and i cannot stand living with him anymore i’m constantly having to be aware of what i’m wearing around him, etc. and my parents are now acting as if nothing happened at all, and i’m being villainised for being extremely upset about the whole thing, as my sister is more forgiving than me, but i genuinely don’t care if she forgives him more than me because he did an unforgivable crime in my eyes and i have a lot of history with getting sa’d and going to court etc. AITA?
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i’m 17f and my sister is 25f, she lives in a different continent on the whole other side of the world, but the whole family travelled abroad so my mum could get married there was about 42 of us in the group, towards the end of the two weeks my stepbrother 23, groped my sister, told her “u know u liked it” and “i see the way u look at me” after she said get off, she couldn’t even tell my mum the next day because it was my mums birthday, when we did tell my parents day after getting back, he received almost no consequences, still lives with me, my mum, stepdad, and i cannot stand living with him anymore i’m constantly having to be aware of what i’m wearing around him, etc. and my parents are now acting as if nothing happened at all, and i’m being villainised for being extremely upset about the whole thing, as my sister is more forgiving than me, but i genuinely don’t care if she forgives him more than me because he did an unforgivable crime in my eyes and i have a lot of history with getting sa’d and going to court etc. AITA?
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NTA do you have any other family that you could live with instead? Or with your sister? Time to GTFO
Nta
Clear NTA. Get in touch with local charities and agencies that support survivors of domestic/sexual abuse and violence to help get you and your sister out of this situation.
NTA get out to keep yourself safe. Your mother and her partner are Aholes for not protecting your sister and doung shit all about it.
NTA hes literally a sex predator being enabled by your parents.
100% NTA. Definitely get out of there as soon as you can for your own sanity