So I (28F) got a pretty bad cold about a week ago. My fiancé (31M) started with symptoms a couple of days after me so we’ve been feeling sorry for ourselves for a bit.
I started feeling better a few days ago. My fiancé started with a pretty bad cough last night, it sounded dry and like it would be sore for his throat.
When I was at work today I went to the shops and got some Strepsils (throat lozenges) to help soothe his throat and help with his cough.
I told him and he is getting mad at me now saying I’ve wasted money on something useless (£6 that I paid with my own money) and why would I get him throat sweets when he has a cough. He’s said “just don’t get anything if you aren’t capable of thinking and reading packets about getting something for its intended purpose”.
I think he’s being very unfair and over reacting to this. I saw he was suffering and thought I would try to help. I have no problem with him not wanting the Strepsils if he thinks this won’t help, but I think he is being ungrateful and mean about it. I’ve apologised for assuming he had a sore throat without checking but he just keeps saying that I’ve pissed him off and asking why I can’t just think and read.
Am I the asshole for not buying the right thing? I appreciate this whole thing is so childish and it sounds so stupid written down…
(Also just for reference the Strepsils are in date until 2028 so they will get used, they won’t be wasted)
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So I (28F) got a pretty bad cold about a week ago. My fiancé (31M) started with symptoms a couple of days after me so we’ve been feeling sorry for ourselves for a bit.
I started feeling better a few days ago. My fiancé started with a pretty bad cough last night, it sounded dry and like it would be sore for his throat.
When I was at work today I went to the shops and got some Strepsils (throat lozenges) to help soothe his throat and help with his cough.
I told him and he is getting mad at me now saying I’ve wasted money on something useless (£6 that I paid with my own money) and why would I get him throat sweets when he has a cough. He’s said “just don’t get anything if you aren’t capable of thinking and reading packets about getting something for its intended purpose”.
I think he’s being very unfair and over reacting to this. I saw he was suffering and thought I would try to help. I have no problem with him not wanting the Strepsils if he thinks this won’t help, but I think he is being ungrateful and mean about it. I’ve apologised for assuming he had a sore throat without checking but he just keeps saying that I’ve pissed him off and asking why I can’t just think and read.
Am I the asshole for not buying the right thing? I appreciate this whole thing is so childish and it sounds so stupid written down…
(Also just for reference the Strepsils are in date until 2028 so they will get used, they won’t be wasted)
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NTA. I don’t know why he’s pissy about this or why he doesn’t think they’d be useful to him. He sounds like an ass.
NTA
And listen…why are you with a man who would be so ridiculous to you over the “wrong” throat drops?. What he said to you was a form of verbal abuse and you deserve better.
what? what? are they not the same product? til
He’s being ridiculous, but also strepsils do help with coughs because they soothe the throat so your finance is mean and stupid, there are literally ones designed for cough but most will give temporary cough relief
NTA. Is he normally a jackass when he’s sick, or is this something that permeates the entire relationship?
I’ve learned that some people get super pissy when sick. Imo he is obviously the type that just needs to be left alone when sick. Most of all cough drops isn’t gonna magically stop a cold anyways. Doesn’t really matter what you bought. The cold we run its course regardless of what type of cough drop.
OP NTA. Wow, your (should be ) exFiance’ surely is though!! It isn’t that he doesn’t want what you bought, it’s the complete lack of respect & gratitude, that you went out out of your way to get him something that might help. It’s the demeaning and insulting barrage of words. Why would you want to spend your life with someone who speaks to you in that condescending , hurtful way? If it were me, I would be rethinking my relationship, and for sure would never do anything to alleviate his illnesses ever again. What a red flag waving madly he is!
So number one he’s an asshole.
But number two can you explain to us what he DID want?
NTA. That he’s not feeling does not provide him with an excuse for using you as his emotional punching bag. I’d let him stew in his own cough for a while.
NTA, but your boyfriend is. Also the different kinds of strepsils including the ones marketed specifically for coughs differ only by taste, the active ingredients are exactly the same. He’s not only an ahole but stupid enough to fall for a marketing scheme.
NTA. Hes honestly acting like a baby, like hes expecting to be coddled for feeling ill
NTA, at all. Does your fiancé often belittle you like this? First of all, the product you got would probably help a cough, and secondly even if you bought something he didn’t want insulting your intelligence and reading comprehension is an absolutely wild overreaction. There’s no explanation that makes this ok. He sounds really mean.
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I think you’re about to marry someone who will not commit to making you happy in life. God gives us red flags for a reason. Ignore them all you want, but they’ll eventually impact your happiness if you ignore them
Is he always talking like that to you? Because damn… That’s way too harsh, you know that, right? Doesn’t matter if you were in the wrong or not. NTA obviously. I hope he will be your ex soon, because wtf.
Call off that engagement before you’re stuck with this ungrateful loser