So I think I might have messed up but I’m not sure if I’m actually in the wrong here. My girlfriend Sarah and I have been together for about 8 months and we stay over at each others places pretty regularly now.
A few months ago I started using some of her face stuff because honestly my skin looked like garbage and I was getting breakouts. Her products worked amazing and my skin cleared up so much that people at work even commented on it. I thought she’d be happy that I was taking better care of myself but now she’s getting really upset about it. Apparently her face cream costs like $80 and some serum thing is $60? I had no idea skincare was that expensive. She told me last week that she had to use money she’d been saving aside to replace her moisturizer because I used it all up.
When she brought it up I kinda laughed it off and said her stuff works way better than my drugstore face wash, which is true. But then she got more serious about it and said I need to ask before using her things or buy my own. I told her I thought couples were supposed to share everything and that seemed to make her even more mad. She said I’m being inconsiderate about her budget and that the products are made for her specific skin type.Look I have some money saved up and I could definitely afford to buy my own stuff or replace what I used, but I guess I just didn’t think it was that big of a deal? Like we share food, netflix other stuff all the time.
Is she overreacting or am I being a jerk here? Should I just buy her new products and get my own routine going?
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YTA replace what you used.
There is no way this is real.
It’s just too obvious YTA
Boring bait
do you also use her toothbrush? wear her panties? her high heels? some things will always be just her’s. you know the damn difference
replace the damn skincare and stop being a mooch
YTA. you need to buy the products if you use them
YTA. Replace it and don’t use stuff that isn’t yours without asking.
YTA. theres items you never use or share. One of em is your girls makeup. its like our hobbies where we collect items like guitars or something. Costs can add up quickly and trust me they spend $$ on that. Buy your own
so you used her stuff without asking, and used so much of it that she had to by more
then she told you how much it was, and you just laughed it off and said you thought couples were supposed to share everything and you didn’t offer to replace it or to share expenses to keep using her stuff?
YTA replace her stuff and then buy your own
Yeah, that stuff can be EXPENSIVE. As others have said apologize to her, buy her replacements, BUY YOUR OWN, and don’t use her shampoo, deodorant or her underwear either! Get your own.
You can also hand her $140.
This has to be click bait right….but yeah YTA
Buy replacement products of ones you used and then also buy a set for yourself
YTA. Replace it now. If you want to share let her know and contribute to the cost. Always ask first.
YTA. Face creams can be hella expensive! Buy yourself some and get her some to replace it. Make sure you get the exact same stuff!
8 months in and your stealing her shot? Makeup is expensive. Replace it and pay her back
They name streets after you. One-Way
Couples sharing everything includes sharing the cost of expensive facial products.
YTA
You need to pay up and replace what you used, then by all means, get some for yourself if you like them.
Buy your own? If my partner used my skincare up we would be beefing. My skin shelf retails at over a grand (I don’t have to pay as much tho)
Understandable mistake. But you should have offered to replace it right away
YTA
YTA, that can get expensive and she’s allowed to have things that are just hers.
Yta if you want to share that stuff you need to provide the money for it too. Of course the expensive stuff works better than drug store items but again not a reason to take it without asking. Don’t be a douche apologize and say hey if I give you money can you buy me a set too or say hey send me the link for that skin stuff I want to use it more as well. If you want to fix this you can even joke and say hey I bought one to replace yours as an I am sorry and I bought two for my place so we can share when you come over.
YTA. You do not use other people’s things without permission. You learn this is grade school. Replace her things and buy your own.
YTA. Replace her products, and then buy similar for yourself. Actually get a consultant to help you so you get the right skin care. It isn’t one size fits all. What’s working great for you right now may not be the right choice for you in the long-term.
Seriously, though — apologize, replace her products, and get your own. You weren’t an intentional asshole UNTIL you dismissed her complaint. Her complaint is legit.
YTA. You dont know about skincare and are getting mad about the cost of the products youre wasting.
If you think couples are supposed to share everything, pay your fair share of the skincare products you’ve been ‘sharing’ with her. And in the future, when someone tells you how they feel about something, respect that. It is important to her and if you dismiss her feelings, she’ll dismiss you from her life. Don’t you have a mother to teach you this basic shit?
Pay her back and buy your own stuff
YTA. I don’t care if my skin cream costs $10 a jar. If you use it up on me, I have to budget to replace that. And two of her products cost $140 combined?? Of course they work better than your drug store brand! If you are going to use something, contribute to the cost.
YTA. sharing Netflix and food is not the same as using expensive skincare products, especially without even asking? She also said stop using it and you laughed. Total disregard
Don’t be a jackass. Buy your own shit!
Girls’ skincare can be quite expensive. Just buy it back and get some for yourself-problem solved
YTA. You use it up, you replace it. Like she said, it’s pretty expensive and for you to just use it up like you do your “cheap drugstore” products, is shitty.
YTA replace her stuff, pizza face
What is wrong with you? Do you guys share pads and tampons too? YTA. If you liked her skin products, then buy your own and replace hers. Stay away from her beauty products, period.
YTA. Skincare is very expensive. You didn’t even ask or mention to her you were using it. Didn’t offer to replace it. You laughed when she told you you’d put her in a bad position financially. Selfish and inconsiderate.
YTA. Don’t share skincare products. That can be from bad for your skin to actually unhealthy, depending on the products and the people involved in sharing. Apologise, offer to replace it, and ask her to help you figure out a skin care routine. She’ll love it, you guys get to bond, you’ll get a skin care routine that makes you feel good in your skin.
YTA
Buy her new things and buy your own. Just because she’s your girlfriend doesn’t entitle you to use her stuff, specially without even asking!!! Have you no manners??
Netflix doesn’t cost over $100 per show you watch. Terrible fucking comparison.
This is like a guy with bad credit and poor money management who wants you to pay for his vacation ticket because couples are supposed to travel together.
YTA. Skincare is fucking expensive AND you used it without asking. Even my husband asks me if he wants to try one of my products.
why did you double down even after finding out how expensive her stuff was? arent you being insensitive? didnt it shock you to find out how expensive they were? imagine if someone used up your 60 and 80 dollar purchases without your knowledge, finished it and then told you you were overreacting when it messed with your budget. she didnt even ask you to reimburse her, just that you not be inconsiderate. apologize and reimburse her if you can since her budget is all messed up. idk how you made this post with so much confidence, surely you didnt expect people to be on your side right?
Obviously YTA. Yes, replace her shit & buy your own
You said it yourself. You didn’t know that skincare products are costly. They are. You should replace them and buy your own.
That said, if you pay some attention to your skin type, go a little deeper in to what OTC bramds are out there that are good and dont cost an arm and a leg. Cetaphil, aquaphor, and ceraVie are all dermatologist recommended options. If you have health care, go see your doctor or dermatologist.
Sharing is not necessarily what’s mine is yours. Relationships are not 50-50 and there is a lot of negotiation that happens. Youre only 8 mos in. ,so you have a lot of stuff to work out. Im happily married for 40 yrs and I can tell you that’s a lot of give and take. Its worth it.
Oh hell no. My skincare is the one thing I spend a bit of money on, because cheap stuff does nothing for my skin.
YTA. For using it without asking, and stating that shes overreacting. Now you know her stuff works for you, replace it and buy your own.
that is very expensive. just ask her how much it costs. prob in the hundres.
YTAH, you need to ask before using other people’s things. How would you feel if your wife took one of your uniforms and didn’t tell you about it?
You clearly don’t understand the cost of these skin care items, and considering their cost, no shit they work better than the dollar level stuff you’re buying.
Respect her stuff, respect her, and respect skin care and get things suited to your skin and needs.
Grow up and be a man.
then quit doing it.
This has to be ragebait
You don’t share personal products, buy your own you cheap POS and leave her stuff alone.
YTA my skincare is incredibly expensive, my BF asks me to use a little and that’s ok, just use it up and don’t replace it? That’s shitty.
Face stuff is expensive. You’re not married or in a long term relationship. 8 months in. Buy your own.
Asking before using someone else’s stuff is a lesson you should have learned in kindergarten.
YTA. Obviously.
YTA. Replace her skincare products and start buying your own.
You are a total asshole.
I would be looking for a new place to live, if I were you.
Dude, man to man, you are being a prick.
Apologise and offer to pay for replacements and never use other people’s shit without asking.
YTA, a woman’s holy grail is her self care.
I too would be pissed if someone used my expensive skin care products. Buy your own.
Replace her skincare for her, but also turn this into something positive by asking her advice on a personalized skincare routine for you. If she’s spending on products it is likely that this is a passion of hers and would like the opportunity to impart what she’s learned.
Or go to r/skincareaddicts and buckle-up.
Whatever you do, keep the self care going!
Dude. YTA. Skincare costs an absolute fortune and you laughed it off when she told you so? The appropriate thing to do here is pay for the replacement product, and then ask her to take you out and help select some products for you.
Once you pick your jaw up off the floor after realising just how much it costs to have decenct skincare, I suggest also buying her a little ‘sorry for not taking you seriously gift.’
YTA
You’re using stuff you don’t know the value of or how to use it properly.
All under the guise of ‘couples share’…
Would you like it if she used your ipad as cutting board to cut vegetables?
Feels quite similar to me!
If you use the. You need to buy them
There’s a difference between sharing a €3 hand soap and using someone’s self-bought personal skin care products without asking and even expecting HER to buy more so you can use it for free.
Buy your own, so you can modify your routine even more to your skin type.
YTA.
If I were her I’d lock my stuff up. You used so much she had to buy more and your first thought is to laugh and think she should share? How about “I’m so sorry, I didn’t know it cost so much. Let’s go to the store right now and I’ll buy you replacements. Maybe you could help me figure out what I should use so I can BUY MY OWN STUFF.”
Buy her new stuff, buy yourself same stuff ..both use each other stuff?
YTA, makeup and skincare are bott very expensive and you used it before asking and you have not reembursed her for what you essentially stole from her. She knows how much she used and has to budget or these stuff and you took that from her. This isnt about sharing this stealing. If it had been sharing you would have asked her and made sure that you pitched in, you didnt.
Replace ehat you stole and replace with exact product you stole not your drugstore cheap stuff.
YTA. Replace all the products you used, and absolutely not from Amazon. Go to a reputable retailer or the manufacturer directly. You used so much of her products that she had to replace them much earlier than she planned. Yes, good skincare is expensive, so you can stop being a cheap ass and buy your own instead of mooching off your gf. Is she allowed to just go into your wallet and take all your cash at anytime?! Your entitlement, audacity and flippant reaction is beyond selfish.
YTAH.
You weren’t raised right, my dude. I understand being ignorant at first, but you were informed of a reasonable boundary AND she told you that your abuse of her skincare products was causing her financial difficulties. Persisting and arguing with her about your entitlement to her expensive moisturizer and serums is deep in asshole territory.
Be better. And pay her for what you used, pronto.
Well you now realize it costs real money, why don’t you replace what you’ve used of hers and buy your own as an I’m sorry I didn’t ask and thank you for being patient with me??? If you decide to not do this, then yes, YTA
It’s not mainstream for anyone else to use your skincare/makeup products. Even friends you’ve had for decades will ask before using your stuff. You can’t assume that because you’re in a relationship with her that you can help yourself to everything in her bathroom or kitchen. If she says it bothers her, it bothers her. Respect her feelings and boundaries.
YTA. You should replace her skincare that you used, especially now that you know how expensive it is.
“Couples share everything”, in some relationships this is the case, but even then, it’s often within limits. If she makes it clear something is not to be shared, it’s not for you. If you want it, buy your own. Period. My man and I share everything in theory but he does not use my 80$ conditioner. I told him this the first time he used my shower- my hair products are precious to me and they’re expensive as hell so no, I do not share them. If someone else wants gorgeous smooth hair I’ll give them product recommendations, but buy your own.
Even now, I’ll proactively ask him if I can have/use something if I think there is even a slight chance he was saving it for himself. The other week I asked if I could drink the last beer he bought, not because he’d ever get mad if I did, but I asked out of consideration because I could see a world where he’d be disappointed if he came home and was expecting to enjoy the last corona but I’d consumed it without asking.
To me asking is just a show of consideration to ask. Unless you guys have completely merged finances, it’s considerate to check before assuming you’re entitled to something. And with time you’ll figure out what is shared and what is not.
i had to laugh that you the op think ur not in the wrong here. you used her products without her permission and when u found out the price of it u just laughed. if u so believe in sharing as a couple then get off your hiny and either give her the money she spent on them or go out and bu y them and going forward share the 50/50 on b uying them.
YTA
Replace her belongings and stop using them, buy your own. Skincare is expensive, she explains it, and you still dismiss her? You’re making yourself worse and worse here.
“But we share Netflix” – you cannot use up Netflix and have to replace it…. Use your brain.
YTA you didn’t ask before using them and laughed when told how expensive they were. BUY HER REPLACEMENTS
Skincare is expensiveee. Why would ypu use her products without asking? Just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean all your property is shared now. Go apologize and buy her new stuff
no way people are this dense
Baby, we don’t share skincare products because that stuff gets really expensive really fast. If you are doubtful, I would recommend taking notes of all the products you used and take a leisurely stroll at Ulta or Sephora, while you do that, look for the products she uses. It will be really eye opening! In addition to that, any customer service representative in either of these stores will be more than glad to point you in the direction of the skincare that’s appropriate for you, no need to use your girlfriend’s. She’ll be super proud of you for making good decisions to safeguard your life/physical well-being
Dude!!! You-need-to replace her face lotions& buy your OWN! If she broke up with you regarding this I would applaud her since you are thinking it is funny you used up all her expensive skin care
YTA!!
Not only did you take her personal products without asking or checking what they cost, you’re also dismissing her objections, laughing at her frustration and trying to gaslight her like she is somehow in the wrong.
You taking care of yourself shouldn’t come out of her girlfriends pocket and couples share things that they agree to share.
Lets say you had a fitness goal and you bought specific expensive supplements to help you support it. Then your girlfriend starts taking them without telling you or having any clue what they actually do. Would you be happy she is “taking care of herself” or pissed off she used it up and you have to buy more now?
Ask first and buy your own. YTA.
YTA. Replace her stuff, ask before using it next time, or get your own.
Relatively cheap skin care products work for me. But I have curly hair. And I spend a lot of money on my products. If my boyfriend used up my expensive shampoos and creams without letting me know and on top of that not paying for them I would be livid.
And he wouldn’t be my boyfriend anymore.
YTA. Don’t touch the boats. Or the womans personal care products. Have her take you to the store to buy your own. It’ll be a good bonding exercise. Then buy her a set for herself and something else nice to apologize.
Yes, YTA. Go buy your own stuff.
There’s something called the pink tax. We wouldn’t be considered dateable or employable or a whole bunch of other stupid s*** if we let our skin look to the way your skin looked when she actually started dating you…. Think about that dude. Think about the inherent double standard that we fundamentally already know how much money we’re going to have to spend on our hair and our skin to look”presentable”
Like you right now are the embodiment of why we’re enraged. The fundamental number of things you’re not considering. Do you make more money than she does? Because that makes it all so much worse if you do. It doesn’t make it better if you don’t.
yeah yta massively and extremely fucking stupid. “i used my gfs expensive serums and potions and i laughed her off instead of apologizing and replacing it” do you hear yourself. i hope she dumps you man
YTA buy your own supply and replace hers. Cheap bastard.
YTA.
Either take her with your credit card to pick out more skin care for both of you, or hand her the $140, never use her stuff again and accept your lizard skin.
Either way, she’s going to give you some well earned side eye and know that she can’t trust you to value her things and respect her.
YTA big time. Just buy your own. What you’re doing is incredibly selfish and entitled. You are literally stealing from her.
Sounds like you want her to be your mom, not your girlfriend.
Mommies pay for stuff for you.
Girlfriends are partners. Partners take care of each other by sharing the cost of shared items.
You’re a loser.
YTJ- let me guess, your one of those “what’s mine is mine and what’s yours is also mine” kind of guy. Cough up some cash to replace what you stole and buy your own if you like it so much. You’ll be single soon enough.
Replace what you use bro wtf is wrong with you
You need to replace both products. Then buy your own for your own use. Problem solved.
The response to her bringing it up was as ‘shit, sorry, I can replace it’.
Instead you laughed it off and went ‘what’s yours is mine’.
YTA
YTA. The poor girl has to budget to buy the cream! Why wouldn’t you just replace it!?
YTA
Not even a question. You used up expensive products, you have to pay for it. You have a very twisted concept of “sharing”. Sharing means, if you ask her she likely would have helped you find good skin care for yourself or let you try her things. Sharing is not the same as just taking without asking. Did your parents really raise you like that? If true, then they’re AH’s too.
Go apologize, pay back what you basically stole from her and then make up for your mistake.
you know good and damn well YTA
I started to buy my own serums and creams from The Ordinary brand, whenever we went to ulta or sephora. It ain’t cheap lol
YTA a hundred times! Would you be ok if you buy something for you worth 140 and then she takes it without asking you? How can you not see how wrong you are?
YTA. You ask and let her know. Offer to buy her the same products back. Apologize and discuss better communication on sharing this stuff.
You’re the asshole,.
You used her stuff without asking, and when she expressed to you that this wasn’t okay and that the items were very expensive, you laughed at her instead of apologizing.
Your excuse that “couples are supposed to share everything” is totally bizarre, too. Sharing a Netflix account or buying groceries together is not remotely the same thing as you using her skincare products without asking.
Surely you can see the difference here, no?
You owe this woman an apology and you need to replace the items you used and tell her you won’t touch it again. That’s the bare minimum.
YTA. If “couples share everything” that includes you, and includes expenses. Either pay half and share, or better, replace what you used and then buy your own and don’t touch hers. You’re being a scrub. A mooch. A user.
Go listen to Erykah Badu singing “Call Tyrone” on the way to Ulta.
YTA.
You’re using up her stuff without asking and it’s not like this is just a bit of food here and there, this stuff is expensive enough that she’s having to dip into her savings to replace it. You don’t even offer to replace it when you find out this is biting into her budget?
Honestly, you sound like a chore to deal with.
You are a complete jerk. For starters, at 8 months in, you’re nowhere close to being “a couple that shares everything”. Give her the money to replace the items you used and then buy your own. It’s hard to believe you are so clueless to this.
YTA replace her stuff. You made her spend $140 bucks to replace what you kept using. It’s expensive. If you didn’t want to help replace it you don’t get to use it. She’s mad for a reason, that stuff is expensive as hell and if it works that’s probably because she spent ages trying to figure out what would work for her. She finally found it and you used all of it.
Also sharing everything? No couple I have ever seen has shared everything and lasted for that long. There are likely success stories out there, but you need to ask before you use peoples things. But I am so serious replace her stuff you used that stuff is not cheap. And if she had to take money that she was saving for a specific purpose to replace it you suck for not at least giving half of that money back. Lol “couples are supposed to share everything” except apparently sharing the cost of things you used
It’s expensive. If you want to use it too, then buy more!!
Yeah dude you’re an asshole. That shit can be expensive and she bought it for herself. If you helped buy some, then your excuse of sharing might possibly work here, but you used up her product and laugh at her when asked to replace. Dude you’re a dick.
How would you feel if you had food allergies and had to buy very expensive foods that she ate without asking to the point you ran out then said “We are supposed to share!” YTA
we use these things sparingly because we know the pain of paying for it. you don’t. you just slather it on and it is being used up so much more quickly. if you can’t afford to buy it you can’t afford to use it. mooch
YTA. Replace her stuff and buy your own. Couples share things when both pay for it.
YTA!
YTA. Replace her stuff. You’re rude.
Yeah YTA because you’re using her expensive stuff.
Buy the products she uses and have them at your house. That way when she’s at your place she can use them, and you can use them when at her place.
>I thought couples were supposed to share everything
Yeah, and what are you sharing? Just buy the products and the problem should be solved.
I have been with my husband for 10 years, and we share finances, bank accounts etc. we share almost all money.
HOWEVER
cosmetics and skincare comes out of my personal money, and when my husband started using mine (also an expensive cream at £30 per tiny tiny pot!), I ordered him his own and made him transfer me the money.
Buy your own personal skincare! And replace the one you used.
Alternatively both use it and alternate who pays for it.
YTA
YTA. You used her stuff without asking and without bothering to contribute to the cost. The cost of the products is irrelevant. Your entitlement is. And doofus, when couples “share everything,” it’s because they’ve also “shared paying” for what’s being used. If you’re not contributing to the cost of the products, you’re just a mooch.
You’re definitely the jerk here. Reimburse her for what you used and get your own skincare routine going.
YTA. When she said she had to buy more because you were using it. The right thing to say would have been let me help you get more. And then ask where can I buy some for myself.
YTA.
You used her expensive products without asking, and then doubled down when she asked you not to because she can not afford to buy them for both of you.
It is not your drugstore crap which is why it works.
If you like her stuff, get your own of the same brand.
Women who pay for the expensive stuff also generally use it sparingly because you don’t need to slather it on like the drug store brands.
You are not only using her stuff without asking and blowing her off when she says not to. You are probably using it at a much faster rate than she does.
If you actually like this girl, you have only been dating for 8mo. Surprise her with at least one of the products and get your own to use.
I personally would rethink a relationship with you if you used my $150 serum and then laughed it off when I asked you not to use it.
YTA. Replace her stuff then buy your own!
Yes it’s a big deal. When stuff is that expensive you need to help pay for it. Sure you can share stuff, but things like this, get your own. I’ve been married for 23 years and my husband better not touch my expensive face creams/serums unless he wants to buy me more.
You aren’t the AH cause you didn’t know. But, please pay for your own or help her pay.
YTA. Keep your hands off people’s things, and give her money for the replacements.
WTF – you actually have to ask?!! Of course YTA! You should be paying for what you use, instead of stealing her expensive stuff! WTF is wrong with you?!?
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Skin care is insanely expensive – you’d best buy replacements like yesterday. Holy crap!
YTA, and a major douchebag
If you’re too cheap to buy nice skin care, then don’t use it, ffs. You used $70 worth of product and you’re just like “teehee, but couples share“
Yta!
This has to be clickbait, you cant be this dumb
Replace her stuff, never use it again without permission, dont squeeze the bottle like it’s moisturiser from the supermarket, use a pea sized quantity if she says it’s ok, apologise ad stop being a dickhead.
Do you have anything of personal use like a hoodie, or something for your car you really value, costs a bomb and you rely on daily? Imagine she wore your favourite t shirt you keep for best and that was a gift from your grandma who is now dead to wear when she dyes her hair to catch the staining and when you told her heeeeeey thats my favourite t shirt…she said? This It’s nicer that the cheap tops I buy, so Ive used it instead of a towel, we share everything, dont we?
YTA
YTA you could’ve at least asked before hand especially if you didnt understand how much it actually cost
Dude, buy your own skin care products. And replace hers. You don’t use someone’s things without asking. And no, couples don’t share everything.
YTA replace them both
I’m pretty Sarah’s friends are in a group text saying YTA and telling her to break up with you.
YTA. One. Even if you’re dating, you should ask if you can use their personal products. Two. You really drove in the fact YTA by dismissing her feelings when she brought up this issue. You should 100% replace a bottle/tube/whatever of what you’ve been using as a peace offering.
Just because you’re with someone doesn’t mean you’re entitled to everything they have. I’ve been with my husband for 14 years, and there are things that we both know are mine and things we both know are his. We are still individuals despite being married and if I spend a shit load of money on colour protect shampoo I don’t need hubby using it all up for example.
YTA and you are being a jerk!! Good skincare is expensive. Either pony up for your own and leave her stuff alone or go back to garbage skin.
Surely this is satire or rage bait because how can an adult be so completely clueless?
So you think she should share the actual pruducy, but you don’t have to share any of the cost of it? That doesn’t sound like sharing everything
Can you refrain from starting a post with the word “so?” That is not a decent word to begin a paragraph with. It makes the writer sound stupid. So many people on here do it. You appear to be illiterate. I’d answer your question but you lost me at so.
Okay I managed to read it. You’re being a jerk because you are spreading misinformation that expensive skin care products make your skin great (and that your skin is bad because you use cheap products) They do not, unless you already have good skin. If you were unlucky enough to have very bad acne, or other skin problems that are genetically passed on, no expensive skin cream is going to change it. The only thing that improves bad acne is accutane, and that doesnt fix scarring. Stop spreading misinformation that expensive skin products give you great skin. They do not. Good genes do.
You are being a jerk. Replace what you used and buy the same stuff she uses. Stop being a jerk.
YTA. Now that you know it works, buy it yourself.
YTA. Yes a lot of couples share a lot of things, but you’re missing the entire point. As a couple you get to decide TOGETHER what is and isn’t shared. You can even assume that everything is shared as long as both parties aren’t objecting to it like the food and subscriptions you gave as an example. You became the asshole as soon as she told you she didn’t want that to be shared and you deliberately chose to disrespect that boundary. You get to decide what is yours, she gets to decide what is hers, and anything else that is shared needs to be a MUTUAL agreement.
YTA. Buy your own.
These products are expensive. What don’t you offer to replace or purchase shareable ones for when you’re there, or buy your own.
YTA Yes, couples do share stuff, but there are boundaries too. Are you going to wear her underwear, too? Take her prescription medication? Skincare costs a lot of money, especially for specific concerns. Would you be upset if she used up something you’d saved up for and needed and didn’t replace?
If she’s telling you her that she’s upset and you’re laughing it off, YTA.
I’ve been with my wife since 1999 and I wouldn’t use her creams and shit without asking, OP u are nuts.
YTA you understand that taking things without asking is stealing, right
YTA. Boy you dumb. At this rate she’s about to be an ex.
Just buy your own stuff damn
Dude. Buy her more and get your own shit!
YTA
yikessssss. YTA
skincare is EXPENSIVE. for reference, here’s just a few of my most-used products. i just had to place an order for these recently and my wallet is feeling it
cleanser – $34
repair serum – $85
moisturizer – $70
eye cream – $76
the fact that you didn’t even offer to replace what you used or at the very least, pay for half would honestly make me furious. sharing netflix and food ≠ blowing through her face cream and serum
That’s a dick move. You essentially blew over $100 of her money without even asking.
YTA if you dont replace them and apologize.
YTA. Even following your logic of couples sharing your not doing your share. You are just taking. Have the same skin care routine but that means buying double the product at minimum that means you chip in your share of the products you use.
Couples don’t need to share everything. It’s actually much healthier for the relationship to have boundaries and individual items meant only for you. You should have asked first, then made right when you saw she was upset. I understand you didn’t know how expensive skincare products are, but now you do, so you can buy your own. Those little bottles can go quickly between two people.
Going forward, it would be a good idea to ask first, respect the others right to privacy and personal belongings. That goes for both of you. And be patient, because it takes time learning to live with another person.
bro you’re an asshole, and you even let her spend her money to replace stuff that YOU used without telling her? go buy her the skincare, and apologize like a normal human being
Kudos for getting your skin under control but yes you are an asshole. You clearly know it’s expensive so stop being a dick about it and get your own shit.
One more issue that might make you TA: before I use my skincare products I WASH MY HANDS (especially before using things I have to scoop out of a jar with my fingers). Who knows how dirty your hands are!?!? If you contaminated her products, you should replace them. Contrary to what TV might show, women generally DO NOT SHARE makeup or skincare products/tools with others.
YTA. I hope she breaks up with you for stealing from her and dismissing her feelings. You don’t get to use someone’s personal items without asking.
Costs and disrespect aside, I am a huge germaphobe and I’m obsessive about making sure my hands are clean before I touch any of my skincare products or my face.
I’m gonna guess you don’t thoroughly wash your hands before you stick your fingers in her products, which is so gross. So now not only are you using her products but you’re also getting dirt and bacteria in them, exposing her face to your gross hand germs. YTA.
Buy your own skincare products, OP.
YTA
Even if it was cheap, if you use up someone else’s stuff you replace it not laugh at them and make a Reddit post about it.
We’re you raised in a barn? You use someone’s products, you replace them. YTA
The other things are talking about you basically mutually use this is her own skin care. What if she walked in and just like took all of your clothing where all of a sudden you’ve run out of clothes and you didn’t realize she was taking them one at a time until you had literally no clothes? Except because clothes are reusable into this product is consumable, all those clothes are gone. What would you ask of her?
Skin care is hella expensive.
Find out the ingredients that were in what she liked, after you replace her full set and never ever do it again, and check out a brand called the ordinary I think they even have a chat you can use and say hey I used these products and it worked but I need to get my own. The ordinary is way cheaper but it’s still high quality stuff it’s just confusing to use because they basically sell single ingredient bottles and you kind of make your own routine.
I’m sure she would be happy that you’re taking care of yourself if you were doing it on your own dime, not hers.
That’s theft… you must ask before using her product and you must replace them… you shouldn’t even have to ask, only AH who grow up poor and without proper teaching would assume you can just use others’ skincare… wtf
Who raised you?
Different things, but my ex used to smoke all my cigarettes and then gave me money to buy new packs, and he didn’t understand when I told him I didn’t like him smoking all my cigarettes because “he was paying me”. It was less about the money and more about him being inconsiderate. I liked having a coffee and a cigarette after lunch and suddenly couldn’t do it because he’d finished my pack, or I’d have to go through the hassle of going out and buying more before I could enjoy my coffee like I wished to. Meanwhile, he barely had to worry about having tobacco on him because he was smoking all of mine.
Drove me nuts. Ultimately this wasn’t what ended the relationship, but his attitude was one of the many issues with it and a huge red flag.
All of this to say, YTA. Replace your girlfriend’s stuff, ask permission next time, and sit down to have a conversation with her about you guy’s expectations on sharing things as a couple.
YTA Do you always use other people’s things without permission? Have you always lacked common sense? Have you always felt entitled to things that don’t belong to you?
Pay her back and stop touching and using things that don’t belong to you
Ok. Roles reversed:
You bought a really expensive nice steak for yourself.
Your girlfriend cooks and eats it for herself. You want replacement. She laughs and says you should share.
Get it now? YTA
Get your own skincare, mooch-boy.
Yes YTA. Stop stealing your girlfriend’s expensive products! My ex room mates boyfriend did this in addition to living in our house explicitly against my permission, and I think it’s disgusting!
INFO: If couples share everything, why was your answer not “oh shit, I’m sorry babe, I’ll buy the next round of products” ???
YTA. It’s great that her stuff helped you, but you need to ask before using stuff that belongs to someone else. Compensate her for what you used, and buy your own set, unless you agree to share the same bottles to save shelf space. If you decide to just share bottles, compensate her for what you used already, then split the cost of resupply going forward.
yta now that you know she’s upset and you’re dismissing her feelings.
My husband and I have been together for 18 years and we don’t share everything. If he suddenly started using my expensive skin care, I’d expect him to replace it when it runs out faster.
YTA.
YTA. This is a sad moment, where you should realize how ridiculous you sound asking if you’re TA for legit stealing something without asking and then trying to brush it off. Legit, what kind of person are you? This is just awful manners and morals. Grow a conscience.
a Jerk…
As a dude… Buy your own stuff..
Its expensive and it knocks you off of your routine when someone interferes with it.
You are a guy and you enjoyed the change in your skin. Imagine being a woman and someone was knocking you off of your game. Big Mistake.
Prevent the argument and just replace it.
Also sharing food and a hoodie is in no comparison to facial products… Its like sharing a toothbrush but less invasive but WAYYYYY more expensive and can be avoided.
Would you want her using your razor blade on her vagina because you are in a relationship?
Ahhhh its personal right!?! Exactly.
SKIN CARE IS EXPENSIVE! couples arnt meant to share EVERYTHING, are you also wearing her underwear? do you borrow her shoes?
you can’t laugh this off. I’d be pissssssssed if someone used my expensive skincare, I bet you been using loads as you didn’t realise the cost.
replace and ask her for advice for your own skincare! your skin is thicker being a man so likely need different stuff.
some skin stuff is prescription only, some you have to use spf with or your damaging your skin, some stuff arnt meant to be mixed together.
WTF is wrong with you? Replace the damn stuff ffs
YTA huge one
Just buy your own (you could’ve just asked fur suggestions) or pay half the cost of her to use it (with her permission)
Why you thought stealing is the solution? The fact it’s good stuff doesn’t make stealing ok…
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Yes, partners do share things, but you don’t only shareusing things, you share paying for things, too. Sharing works in balance, otherwise you aren’t sharing, one person is leeching. Apologize for using her expensive things without asking, replace her stuff, buy some for your place that you both can use, and then you’ll be balanced and can share. If you pay a lot more than her for the rest of your shared expenses you could talk to her about balancing everything out a little more, if that’s a concern, but just blowing off her complaint that you used some really expensive skin products wasn’t the right play.
Couples share everything including the cost of everything. Buy her new products.
YTA and you know it. She told you that it was expensive and she put a reasonable boundry. Instead of being mature about it you did the “but other couples!” All while ignoring thst those couples talk about it before hand.
YTA. You have no idea how expensive how some skincare lines are. Buy your own stuff and replace hers. Jerk move dude. This isn’t Netflix.
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Do you even like her? Why do you feel entitled to her stuff? How would you feel if she took your car, wrecked it, and laughed in your face when you asked her to pay for repairs?
Why do dudes feel so entitled to women’s shit?
YTA.
Couples share but AGREE to share, unless explicitly agreed before it’s not a what’s mine is yours deal. You’re still your own person, you don’t suddenly become a homogeneous entity.
It sounds like it’s not a big deal to you but it is to her. Buy her more – hell buy her extra and then buy your own. Or continue to buy it and you both use it. Or agree to alternate buying it. Whatever. Just don’t use her shit unless it’s like the odd bit of shower gel or something without asking.
asking to borrow/use something is basic decency in being a human let alone relationships? why are you being such a jerk about the price when she was already upset? it’s giving “the divorce came out of nowhere”. yta, listen to your partner and replace her stuff.
YTA. If you are going to use her expensive products, you need to help pay for them.
YTA. Apologize for using her stuff, replace it with the same products, and get your own in the future. No, couples are obviously not supposed to share everything – even married individuals are entitled to have their own things.
For very obvious reasons, your the asshole