I [30F] so frustrated over partner’s [30M] lack of libido that I feel like I’m pressuring him.

Boyfriend is a great personality match and we enjoy being around each other but he rarely initiates sex and I’ve been trying less and less often because I’m getting worn out from rejection. He’s always saying he’s too tired. I don’t know what he could possibly be tired about because he got laid off and has not worked in months.

He turned down sex last night and this morning even though he was hard both times and I feel so undesired and frustrated that I can’t be in the same room as him. He says we’ll do it later tonight but at this point I feel so much resentment that I don’t want it. I don’t understand why this has to be so much work.

tl;dr I’m burning out on lack of sex and this has been a monthly fight for us. It’s getting to the point that I’m getting mad each time I’m rejected.