Hello I (M18) just got my drivers license over the summer. My best friend (M17) still has a while to go until he can start driving (at least a year).
Since school started he’s asked me to drive him to school so that he doesnt have to pay the bus fare.
Now this is all well and good, however, a year to a couple of months ago he and some other friends made fun of me by talking about how they never could get in a car with me because theyd fear for their safety and at one point my best friend and another friend made a bet saying how long itd take me to crash my car.
It got to the point that, first hangout after turning 18 and starting driving school, my best friend said “Well, im only turning 17 in a few days and ill still probably pass the driving test before you”.
Now this brings us to the present, he lives on the way to school with respect to my house, so its not like im going out of my way to get to him. He asked me to drive him fully expecting me to say yes and honestly at first I kinda laughed and then I saw his serious expression and flatly told him no and the reason as to why, which Ive already stated.
We arent talking because hes mad at me and all my friends are saying im an asshole.
Now on one hand I get why Id be an asshole for doing this to him, but on the other hand, why the fuck would he make fun of me for years and then have the audacity to genuinely ask me for this and its not like he cant pay for a bus ticket since his parents are well off.
What do yall think?
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Hello I (M18) just got my drivers license over the summer. My best friend (M17) still has a while to go until he can start driving (at least a year).
Since school started he’s asked me to drive him to school so that he doesnt have to pay the bus fare.
Now this is all well and good, however, a year to a couple of months ago he and some other friends made fun of me by talking about how they never could get in a car with me because theyd fear for their safety and at one point my best friend and another friend made a bet saying how long itd take me to crash my car.
It got to the point that, first hangout after turning 18 and starting driving school, my best friend said “Well, im only turning 17 in a few days and ill still probably pass the driving test before you”.
Now this brings us to the present, he lives on the way to school with respect to my house, so its not like im going out of my way to get to him. He asked me to drive him fully expecting me to say yes and honestly at first I kinda laughed and then I saw his serious expression and flatly told him no and the reason as to why, which Ive already stated.
We arent talking because hes mad at me and all my friends are saying im an asshole.
Now on one hand I get why Id be an asshole for doing this to him, but on the other hand, why the fuck would he make fun of me for years and then have the audacity to genuinely ask me for this and its not like he cant pay for a bus ticket since his parents are well off.
What do yall think?
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Are you actually a dangerous driver or just inexperienced like any new driver? Either way, I’m leaning towards a small NTA but I think that you could have just said you will drive him on the condition that he and others stop teasing you about it and apologize.
In the event that he is just teasing you and doesn’t actually mean it, if he was a real friend, he would apologize and stop and friendship is restored.
NTA. He can criticise your driving or he can benefit from it. Not both. He made his choice.
YTA – Give him a lift. If he gives you any shit, stop the car, and kick him out. What you are doing is holding a petty grudge.
NTA.
It was the fuckaroundest of times and it was the findoutest of times.
Set your boundaries and stick to them. You don’t move your boundaries based on others opinions, they’re based on your values and how you want to be treated.
If your friend sincerely apologized after being confronted by you about what he said in others company, then I’d say reconsider and give him another chance. But he didn’t. Let him continue to sulk, on the bus.
Congratulations on your new skill/privilege and stay safe on the roads.
I would drive the friend to school on the condition that he stops trashing your driving skills. If you really are a dangerous driver, get your shit straight before you kill someone. Otherwise, a good friend is more valuable than bickering over driving. But I’m a lot older than you so I’m forgetting how intense emotions are when you’re a teen 😊
Nope, NTA Why would you burden him with the fear of riding with such a terrible driver? Enjoy your nice quiet mornings without some stupid little pain in the butt in your passenger seat enjoying the benefits of you clearly not being as shitty of a driver as he’s been saying for the past almost year. And maybe get a new friends group sounds like they’re all kind of crap.
Yta. Friends are more important than this immature petty bullshit. And you driving him shows you are the bigger person. When you are not a child you will understand this better with wisdom of years.
A genuine FAFO moment, in the wild.
If you did agree to pick him up, he’d likely keep you waiting anyway. You’re not a chauffeur. Savour these moments of freedom on wheels, and don’t fall into the trap of being friends with users.
NTA
No but improve your driving skills
You are NTA.
Best friends don’t talk to each other the way he was talking to you.
My daughter just got her license and drives herself to school. There is no way I would support her driving a friend if her friend talked to her the way your “friends” talked to you.
NTA. I think you should charge him if he wants a ride. A little less than what the bus would cost. If not, tell him to F off. Why are you still friends with these people? It’s obvious they don’t respect you.
Did he make fun of you a couple of months ago, a year ago or years ago, because you say all three in your post?
My driving partner in driver’s ed told me how scared she was when I was driving. This was not long after she tried to pull out when another car was coming and the instructor had to use the emergency brake.
NTA. Your friends are just used to being driven around by mommy and daddy – But now that you have the wheels, take the high road. tell them that you can drive them, and hang with them, but not if theyre going to be back seat drivers in your car and treat you like an uber driver; then they can walk on. If you let them, Next thing you know they’ll be asking you to Smoke in your car saying its no big deal etc.
NO. This is your car. Your space. Your responsibility. YOU passed your driving test, and got your carX not them. If you get pulled over who pays the ticket? Who pays for Gas? Who pays if your friend causes an accident? You do. Your friends will understand that Maybe when they get their own shit one day hit until then ; You arent a bus driver. You arent a taxi. Nip that one in the bud now and forever hold your peace. Back seat drivers are Not welcome. Theyre more distracting than cell phones.
(I assume youre not speeding around or driving recklessly and your friends are just being idiots)
NTA. Don’t bite the hand that feeds you.