I just want someone to reassure me that this is the right choice and it’s gonna work out… we are recently engaged after 4.5 years together, own a house and have a 10 month old daughter & 2 dogs.
He has shown signs of narcissism and anger throughout the relationship but I drew the line last night when he tried to break the door down next to our sleeping baby and then proceeded to verbally assault my father when I called him for backup. My priority is to protect my daughter at all costs and want her to grow up in a loving household rather than be subjected to this behaviour.
The thought of starting over is fucking terrifying. I have a good job and strong support system but we have built this life together that I’m just supposed to.. walk away from. I know it’s what I need to do but would love if anyone was willing to share personal experiences of leaving at this stage in the relationship & it being the right choice.
TL;DR need to leave after building a life and family together; please share personal experiences.
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I’m the daughter of an angry narcissistic mom that I literally begged my dad to leave.
Yes, please leave. Keep her (and yourself, breaking things rarely doesn’t escalate to punching you) safe.
It’s only going to get worse. Do it for yourself and your child. You know what you need to do. It will be ok in time.
I don’t have any personal experience to share but yes, you should leave him. Plan it carefully for your own safety (Google ‘how to escape from abusive partner) and please know we’re all rooting for you.
I was with a narcissist for 8 years. It never gets better. They only get better at manipulating the situation.
Remember that it’s about your daughter. What would you tell her to do? Do that.
Get help. Get out. You’ve got this. Life will be infinitely better without a narc.
Think about your daughter. Whatever relationship you’re in, it’s going to be her example of what love is; what she can accept and expect from a partner.
This is how I got out. I woke up one morning and realized I’d k— anyone who treated her that way.
In a sense, she saved my life.
If you think about your daughter and the kind of love you want her to find, it will be easy to leave.
My heart’s with you.