I, (22f), met this guy (27m) while I was traveling in Europe. He is an immigrant in the country we were in, and his country of origin is the same as my parents, so we had a language in common. We were together for two weeks there(in a group) and I befriended the sister of his best friend who have known him a long time and she vouched for him being a good guy.
I thought he was cute at first glance, but didnt really think I could pull him, however in the last few days before I had to leave we really bonded a lot and he started a talking stage as soon as I left to go back home.
I only date for marriage, so I had some reservations about logistical things, but as a person I really like him.
Yesterday he called and confessed to me, and I told him that although I liked him too, I had a reservation about something we didnt really see eye to eye on. He asked if it was a deal breaker and I said yes.
He was very sweet and understanding about it, and we ended on good terms, however now I really, really regret it. Im mourning the friendship we had in the monthish long talking stage we had and I really miss him. Im not sure if there’s any coming back, maybe I’d be able to work around the logistical issues now, but I really regret it and dont know what to do. I feel like I’m missing a piece of myself, like there’s a hole in my chest.
I fear reaching out again and saying “hey actually changed my mind let’s date” isn’t the best way to go about it either. Help??
TLDR; rejected a guy I actually really like over logistical reasons and now I really regret it, am not sure what to do
Comments
you know exactly what to do. go back and talk to him. tell him exactly how and why you felt that way and what changed your mind. be honest, don’t leave out or obscure details.
transparency is the best shot here. even if it doesn’t work out, you know you’ll have closure and that’s a far better way to end things.
What’s the thing you said was a deal breaker? Is it actually not a deal breaker now that you’ve thought about it more, or do you think you just have FOMO?